You should do what makes you happy. Don't be worried about what other people think is morbid or not.

Personally, I don't think it's morbid; we all react in ways that feel right to us. My wife was cremated a year ago, I still have her ashes at home, on a shelf, where I can talk to them whenever I want. I have a selection of photo prints that I rotate through, propping one up in front the urn.

If someone tells me that's nuts, I'll wholeheartedly agree ... I think being widowed after 48 years of marriage has made me more than a little nuts ... 8-)

There is absolutely nothing "morbid" about any decision we might respectively make with the ashes of our loved ones. Recently, another member posted that she had some ashes mixed with her tattoo ink and created symbolic body art she could carry with always. I thought it was a novel idea, although others may have cringed. I guess whatever works for each of us individually to give us comfort is "right". Go for it!

As for me, hubby was spread on 18 holes of one of his fave golf courses in Florida. I couldn't look at the ashes, never opened the box. I carried it to the car of one of his buddies that was hosting the memorial golf tournament and let him go. I was with him when he took his last breath and literally saw his pysical "life" leaving this realm. He was no longer Jim, my husband . . . he became one with Spirit and I honor him in my own way of knowing he is with me in spirit, yet gone physically.

We each do what speaks to us and brings comfort to us. Again, no right or wrong . . .

Hugs to you, Dayna

I had the funeral director have some placed in a teardrop necklace and when I was feeling better I purchased an eternity circle of white sapphires that surrounds the drop. It's one of my prized possessions. The remainder of the ashes are in aCanister from the time we spent in Germany. It sits on a bookcase and no one but me knows what is inside. Sharon

I was going to scatter my husbands ashes in just one place until someone sent me an article titled "what they don't tell you about scattering ashes". The woman writing it took her husband on a "final tour" to all their favorite places. This struck a chord with me and I'm doing something similar. Most of his ashes are at our favorite camping spot in the mountains but I also have some in a keepsake in my bedroom. One of his daughters has some too. I need to ask the other one if she wants some before they're all gone. The rest his sister and I are taking with us as we revisit the places we loved when he was alive. I looked at the jewelry too. I liked the glass pendants that had the ashes mixed in. I might still do it. I didn't have any problems with him being in different places. Long answer is, whatever works for you! Hugs, Liz

It's not morbid. If I ever scatter Paul's ashes, I'll keep some with me.

Definitely not morbid. I'm a wood turner. I'm creating Jalee's urn.
Also I had some time before she passed, I cut a lock of her hair and kept that. I have a pretty piece of figured wood that I will make a pendant containing some of that hair and some cremains.

As Triquetra said " Do what brings you comfort "

Guy

You do not need to wonder what others might think on this matter. It is absolutely up to you to do what feels right for you xxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey Julie. Really, it is a great idea. By this you have 2 benefits. you can feel close to him and also that work as a jewelry. Do it must. I had bought a cremation pendant last month from "Coastalcremationsocietync.com",Which I like most. I may do the same in future.

We were told about the jewelry from a friend who had lost her daughter. Because Larry chose to be cremated, we went online and he picked out a one of a kind necklace & I wear it everyday & feel him close to my heart. I also have his ashes in a urn ...that has United States Marine Corpsman & then His police office friend asked me to have some ashes sent up to Alaska, so they could be scattered in
the ocean where they loved to fish.......

So there are many options, if one chooses for our loved one that miss so much !!!!

I think it's a wonderful idea..I plan to do that myself at some point..in the end, when it is my time, I want my ashes and his blended together and scattered at the beach where we met 22 years ago

My husband's wish was to be cremated. Not my choice, but my daughter bought necklaces for me, the grands and herself and key chains for her brothers. Prior to losing him I would have thought this was morbid. But the amount of great comfort having him close to my heart and his ashes here at home is indescribable. When I go, his urn will be placed inside with me and we will be burried together. Miss him more everyday. Hugs, Michele

I don't know if any of you have heard of LifeGem...they make diamonds out of your loved ones ashes......or so they say. October it will be 2 years that I have been waiting for mine. I did choose the clear option and that takes longer...but I have a bad feeling about this now. The one I chose was $7800 and I have paid half up front. All was fine with updated emails on how the process works until I called to make a change on my order. Originally the "diamond" was to be in a ring and then I decided I wanted a necklace and was going to use our wedding rings as the setting...I had a jeweler who was going to help me design the setting..so I called Lifegem to let them know that I just wanted the stone and would be taking it to a jeweler..and since then there has been no updates....I call and they say that he is still in process....I started researching them and am finding claims of fraud...so now ..even if I get it I will be suspicious. Ugh...just ugh!!!

Dear Julie. I have a small phial which is designed to hold medicine pills, which I have filled with some ashes from my Barbara's urn. It is attached to my keyring so wherever I go she is with me. Also in each room of my apartment I have a little box which contains some of her ashes, so I can talk to her wherever I am. Your idea is eminently sensible. Do it ! Hugs for you on your journey of grief.
Jon

So many neat ideas. I had a life print necklace made from Mike's finger prints. It brings me such comfort and I hold it all the time. I do know that they can make a "print" of the cremains and seal them into a pendant also. Nothing morbid about wanting a loved one as close as can be. If it makes you happy then thats what you should do.

Gave a small vial to each of our kids and scattered the rest in the mountains as per his requests. What ever feels right to you. Hugs Patti