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another bad day

Katexyz123
Katexyz123
Today was not a good day. Spent most of it crying & laying on the couch. Made it through an interview though earlier in the morning. It actually went ok but how do I tell if I am even ready to go back to work when all I want to do is cry. I miss my husband so much. I wish I had been a better wife. I wish I had done things differently. I wish he didn't die. Why can't we get a do over? Why is it we don't really appreciate what we have until we no longer have it. I miss my husband.
LostAndFeelingAlone
LostAndFeelingAlone
I still go through days wishing things could of been different. But no one can predict the future. I often tell people that "You did what you could, and what you thought was the best, at that given moment of time."

Grieving is a hard process to go through. Hugs.
livingdisengaged
livingdisengaged
I too believe that we all have regrets and guilt. And also had an imperfect marriage. I think Robert is always able to put into words what we all think and are all trying to say. Thank you Robert.

I'm trying hard to let go of the guilt and the last few terrible days and to focus on the good memories.

All of the responses here brought tears to my eyes. I appreciate all of you more than you know.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Guilt - a small word that can cause lots of heartache and grief. Our lives changed forever when we lost our husband/wife. I think it is human nature to have regrets or guilt. I also feel that God has a plan for each of our lives and we need to remember we cannot always control what happens. All we can do is take one day at a time and remember the special bond and love we did have with our spouses and believe we gave them the best years together. Wishing you peace!!