Widows & Widowers Support Group
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Today a storm started brewing, not a big one, but one with lots of wind, trees bending and jerking around. Joe and I used to love to experience a storm together. He had 2/3 of our deck made into a screen room where we could sit and drink our coffee and feel the wind blowing on us, hear the rain hitting the roof over us, and we felt snug and dry as we watched and felt the weather and talked.
Today as the wind picked up and the sky started turning darker, I said, "Honey, a storm's coming. Wanna sit outside on the deck?" No answer. I said, "Wow, those trees are really bending low and lots of leaves are floating down. See that?" No answer. I thought how happy Joe would be at this very moment if he were here. I thought maybe I should go out and sit by myself, but it is a little scary alone during a storm. I looked out the sliding glass doors at our adirondack chairs that we used to sit in. They were empty. We had such happiness there, so much closeness, so much laughter, so many plans for our future.
I stayed inside in my recliner as I watched the storm alone and felt such sadness. Such little things.....they would mean nothing to anyone else, but they meant everything to us. I was so sad today.
What stories do all of you have to tell of your "doing nothing together"? Would love to hear them.
Today as the wind picked up and the sky started turning darker, I said, "Honey, a storm's coming. Wanna sit outside on the deck?" No answer. I said, "Wow, those trees are really bending low and lots of leaves are floating down. See that?" No answer. I thought how happy Joe would be at this very moment if he were here. I thought maybe I should go out and sit by myself, but it is a little scary alone during a storm. I looked out the sliding glass doors at our adirondack chairs that we used to sit in. They were empty. We had such happiness there, so much closeness, so much laughter, so many plans for our future.
I stayed inside in my recliner as I watched the storm alone and felt such sadness. Such little things.....they would mean nothing to anyone else, but they meant everything to us. I was so sad today.
What stories do all of you have to tell of your "doing nothing together"? Would love to hear them.
God, how I miss him.
We would go outta town, outta state, my husband had to go find if they had a Costco. Its a memory I will always think of -
Or when the elk herds would come down in groves when winter was setting in, esp. bugling time, we would run out - one to the back of the place one in front to see where it came from. We never tired of watching them...