Truhal,
Lost my wife 3-11-10.
Never had anyone tell me to look for a wife.
Too Soon
Too Old
Too bald
Too set in my ways lol.
Peace to you,
Dave

'Should' remarry, hmm, yes people love to give advice, seems it comes from those who have never been where we are rather than those whose advise we'd really appreciate. You should follow your own heart and feelings. I would like to remarry, but the process of getting to know someone again with a view to a serious long term relationship is far more difficult that I thought it might be! It all was so easy and natural when I was 18 years old and fell in love with the bride of my youth. Now aged 52 and after a beautiful marriage and lots of life lived, I am just not sure - time will let me know, and the Lord will guide. John

Gee I'm confused. I always thought it was the women taking care of the men. =D No one has said that to me. But then again I'm 62, and he was the love of my life so maybe they are guessing I won't be getting married again.

I always thought I would never marry again. After 38 years, it just seemed like, I had enough with one man. Now I'm not so sure. I've only went out once, and with someone I already knew, so it was easy. I don't know if I could just date anyone, all those awkward firsts all over again. I don't think anyone is too old, but I also don't think we have to go out there looking. I think if the good Lord wants us to have someone, we should be open to the possibility. My sister told me, it was her wish, for me to find someone to take care of me. I'm sure she mean financially. I think most men want someone to take care of them, and their houses. I sure don't want that. I have my own house to take care of.
Paula

Yes, I have been told that by people I wouldn't listen to in the first place so I don't let it bother me. One of my wife's friends even wrote me a letter stating I should get remarried, easy for her to say her husband is still alive. I don't think it's aimed exclusively at women, but I find it's exclusively women giving the advise.

In my rural area, I noticed when one man lost his wife how quick the local ladies were to find him another wife, it was like they felt he needed a cook and bla bla. I remember feeling odd about it. He eventually moved away where his daughter lived.

For me I do not know if I could find anyone I would want to put up with or who would want to put with me, yet thinking of living alone again for the duration of my life I just do not like it. This just is not what I envisioned in my life at this time.
BUT like Dave too soon, too much hair, too set in my ways,

Yes. I let it go in one ear and out the other. Maybe someday I will be ready. I have had several proposals though. All but one from men over 60, all widowers who thought they would be the answer to all my problems, and theirs. Creepy.

noone said find a wife maybe find a girlfriend or get la-d sorry most of those people are assh--es sorry again.i was a cook for about eight years before becoming a mechanic.so i do not need someone to cook for me .i am not looking put if someone comesalong i will not stop it .i am not looking to replace cindy i will always love her and miss her .scott

It's been over a year and both my sister and my mother have mentiones in conversation that I do much better with a special someone in my life. I was divorced and single for 24 years before meeting and marrying my husband. There were relationships in between from which they draw their judgement and I do agree with them. If someone came into my life that made me comfortable, happy and interested I would gladly welcome someone to share my life with. Would I remarry? I am not sure, there are a lot of financial drawbacks to marrying at my age. It must be a subject of some discussion among those you talk to. If it is meant to happen it will. My advice is to not pass yourself a solitary sentence, keep an open mind and eventually heart. Sharing life is more rewarding.

Just standing back and taking an abstract view of the situation......... You had a successful happy marriage and so,obviously capable of being a good partner and friend in marriage....... why wouldn't they want you married, your dangerous to them. At least that makes sense when it comes to friends remark's like that........Family?? who know's what's on their minds?

PRINCE CHARMING....where are you???? Oy vey yes. What I REALLY hate is people saying ''you've got to get out there' almost like ''snap out of it'' - they mean well - I guess' . One thing that this website has given me (along with a zillion other things), is a better perspective on men - I was only with one for 39 years, so I don't know much. Unlike in the movies, they are caring, wonderful people, who cry the same way as us ''woman folk'' cry, and feel the same as us - they just aren't ''allowed'' to express it like us ''blubbery'' women and they do it in 10 words or less!!!. Feelings are feelings. I would like to be in love again - hey I'm old, but I would love to make love again. If I ever find someone or if someone finds me it will be a miracle from God with Jerry directing. For the moment - until I ''get a new life'' - I'm discovering ME - warts and all.

@Standingalone......... Totally agree and after thinking on the subject a bit, I imagine some friends just want things back to normal (as they see, normal) and having not gone through this have this Hollywood induced idea, that you just slide someone else in place and move on.

For me it is the women in our circle of couples that are starting to hint that "at some point you're going to need to get back out there...". I know they mean well and they know how happy I was when I was with Diana.

Her best friend said to me "you know Diana put a lot of work into making you a good husband, it would be a shame to let all her work go to waste!" (LOL).

I can't imagine ever feeling that close to another person, but I also can't imagine spending my life alone. At this point I am taking the journey and l am open to any possible future...

-Pete-

It is offensive to me when someone suggests that I acquire another partner, especially when they brings "God's plan" or my husband would want me to be happy into the conversation.

I was married to the only person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. Now I only want to live my life out my way. The entire dating scene leaves a lot to be desired anyway. It isn't quite like it was when Richard and I met each other. He was a gentleman, respectful, loving and caring. Richard had my best interest and welfare at heart. My door is closed!

At my age, 65, I want more than anything.....serenity. My time alone gives me the opportunity to mediatate, reflect, pray, and.....have things MY way. I am enjoying some redecorating and my sleep/eat/play schedule is my own. I can cry or scream within these walls and no one is the wiser. I would enjoy the company of a man for dinner, a sporting event, or other, but not in my house. Relationships require a LOT of work, and I retired in 2009. All I want are friends, male and female to enjoy doing things with now and then. Beyond that, I am happy at home with my babies, my kitties, who keep me thoroughly entertained. A wide screen TV helps, also. No man for me unless..........God brings him right face to face with me.
Kathleen