I am very very sorry to hear this. There is nothing I could say to make you feel better...absolutely nothing at this moment. All I can offer is a heart to feel your pain. I can feel it because I was there and we all are.....come here....we are with you...we are hearing you. Hugs, Tiger

Henry you are not alone, you are now amung friends. Feel free to pour your heart out,, cry, vent, laugh, we are all here and have been or are going through what you are. Give yourself time, be gentle, and know we are all here for you. Much love and gentle hugs carla

I am so sorry for your loss. I have no words that can ease your pain. You are among friends here that understand.
Take Care, one day at a time.
~ Lori

I am so sorry. you have just started this roller coaster ride. At 3 years, it has gotten easier, nut never gone. Hang on, you can't go around it, you have to go through it. Drink plenty liquids, eat and sleep when you can. Post when you need to, we are here to support you on your journey. Sandee

Henry:
On June 12, 2015, I was also forced to make the decision to remove the life support. Directly after, I had a wave of guilt: why didn't I wait just over the weekend and get everybody to pray our hearts out for one final miracle, one last hurrah? But I remembered the many conversations Marylou and I had over the years, where we solemnly promised each other, that if the machine was the only thing keeping us alive...to have the courage to perform the final act of love...and shut the machine off. When that finds you and it's in-your-face, a living nightmare is exactly what it is; and the worst part is, there is no waking up. But do not carry the cross of the decision you had to make...because if it was not an act of love, you wouldn't have done it at all. Know that you separated her from whatever condition(s) caused her to be on the life support, and the pain and the fear that came with it...and you sent her to the light, the paradise God created for all of us. Know that she loves you and she waits for you. And don't be a stranger here, either. You are now part of the healing for all of us.

I am so sorry to hear of what you had to endure. I can;t even pretend to understand. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Hugs, Sandi

Henry,
I'm so sorry that you lost Rebecca.

The nightmare will not end for a while. It will seem like it's getting easier and then it will slam you against the wall and rear it's ugly head when you least expect it!

Hang on, talk or write about your feelings as much as you can and leave the fog alone........it will slowly start to clear on its own.......it all takes TIME!

Roz

my heart is with you. you have joined a group of people who really care, people who are living our pain & people who have worked through the pain. I was referred to, and joined this site, only a week ago after losing my love 14 months ago. I have already received comfort in talking to my new DS family of supporters.... I have learned that they (me too...) are all here to help you. lean on us...

I am so sorry that you had to find us, but very glad you did. When we say we are sorry, we really do understand and do not say it because it is the proper phrase to use. Please come here often, we all get it and will never judge anything you say - someone here (if not all of us) will have had experienced the same emotions or a variation of them. We will be here for you.

just want to add, I too had to make the life support decision, so very hard.

Henry -

My heart goes out to you. Both you and Rebecca are
in my prayers.

All of us know your pain. You are not alone.

Blessings to all - Darrell

HGHenry, I am really sorry. There is nothing worse. Take it minute by minute, hour by hour, day be day. Grieving is physically hard on you so remember to do the best you can to eat, sleep and drink lots of water. You've got to do everything you can to keep yourself strong physically to get yourself through this. The mental stuff comes later after the shock subsides. So when you have time, read lots here, go back, it will help educate you as to what to expect. Your in the right place, we are all here to help each other. Like I said, there is nothing worse. ~~ Scottie

I am so sorry you need us but very glad you found us. We are hear to listen, support, commiserate, and hold each other up when we can't stand alone. Please come often and read, vent, communicate and know you are not alone. {{{Hugs}}} ~ Bailey ~

HgHenry, so very sorry for the loss of your wife. After my husband passed, I found this forum and it has been a comfort ever since. I also joined a grief support group found it helpful and beneficial to share and just be around people who also lost their spouse. Much peace to you.

I too am so very sorry for your loss. You have come to a wonderful place and so early in your grief. Everyone here "gets" it. We are all here for you. Anytime, day or night your will get love, compassion and support. Hold on tight, its' a rough ride. Hugs and Love, Michele