Widows & Widowers Support Group

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lonely60
lonely60
I am new to the group and I want to introduce myself. My journey began 3 days after labor 2014. My wife Jeanne developed a cough that would not go away within a few weeks she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. her prognosis was less than a year and in reality she died 4 months after receiving her diagnosis. the last 10 months have been hell, from doctors telling us there was no hope, chemo treatments, ambulance rides to the hospital, funeral homes, cemeteries and therapist. We were lucky that we had four months to say goodbye, tell each other over and over again how much we love each other and finally her telling me that she was going home to Heaven and could not take me with her but she was going to wait for me with her arms waiting to hold me. As painful as this past year has been I am truly grateful for the blessings that we had to prepare for her passing. Both our faith and love for God and each other grew tremendously since she was diagnosed. Now I come home to an empty home and don't know how I am going to make it through each day. I am seeing a grief councilor that has helped. I look forward to talking with others who are on this journey of grief and loneliness to help me and hopefully I will be able to return the favor and offer some help to you.
Can some tell me how to post her picture so it shows on my profile.
Dave
handg
handg
I won't say "welcome" as who wants to have to belong to this group that no one wanted to have to join. I will say that you found a good group of people who know the pain . Each of us may have a different story to share but we have much in common in this journey we were trusted upon. I lost my husband to Lung Cancer ...He had unexplained heart failure in October 2012 and did not bounce back from it. Had to call 911 on Christmas day and finally were given a diagnosis on January 15th 2013. 8 days later he was gone. Here I have learned that grieve is ruthless and the worst roller coaster ride ever. But here I have also found out that there are people who will put there pain aside in order to lift you up...
lonely60
lonely60
Sandy thanks for the help in uploading the picture
wendimac
wendimac
I'm so sorry for your loss. My husband passed only two months after being diagnosed with end stage liver disease, and while in the hospital dealing with that, the doctors also found that he had cancer on top of it. We also had a chance to say most of the things that mattered, but in the end, the disease affected his mind, and much of the time he was suffering dementia from the Hepatic encephalopathy...he died 3 days after being moved to a hospice. He was only 3 months away from turning 60. I am 15 years younger, and can't imagine going through the rest of my life without him...I have good days and bad days...but even on the 'good' days, I end up in tears by the end of the day...
My house isn't empty, because I have our son living with me...but he is autistic, and I'm not sure he understands why his dad isn't here anymore...and that breaks my heart too..
This site has been a Godsend to me,and to many others as well..there are a lot of caring and understanding people here, who walk in your shoes and know your pain.
Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
rebl3157
rebl3157
So sorry you had to find us. I've been here a little over a year, and I thank God for this site! I thought I was losing my mind and found out from this new family here that it's part of the process. I'm sure right now it feels like you won't make through, but you will. You have to keep pushing.
My husband was killed in an accident. No time to say any final "love you" or goodbyes but did he not suffer, for which I am grateful. Come here as often as you need, rant, rave, scream whatever you need, we're here for you.
Rachel
scottito
scottito
Hi Dave. I am glad you found this wonderful group of loving people. I was totally ignorant about grieving and what I found myself going through, and just reading the posts of others helped educate me to know either I wasn't going nuts, or at least, I wasn't the only one out there going nuts! I can tell from your picture what a wonderful happy couple you were. And what a beautiful smile your wife had! To me, you look like the perfect couple. Truly, I am sorry for your loss. Listen to the old timers - they do promise us that it will get better. ~ Scott
shaneslove
shaneslove
Sorry for your loss, and sorry for the reason to join us, but glad that you found us. Everyone here is wonderful, and so understanding of this journey... they are all here for the same type of loss (a mate)

Hugs.... Amy
dschwartz
dschwartz
So sorry to say welcome . . . but a sincere "welcome" to our group. I hope you will find much solace, peace and comfort amogst our group of family and friends here. Sad to say we are all here . . . yet, we are. Point is . . . we will be here for each other . . . you hopefully will find much solace and understanding within our members here. HUgS, D
jenniferalves
jenniferalves
Sorry for your loss and I hope you find solace here too. I have been here only about a month or so. My Danny passed away in May and th empty house is the hardest. Stay strong
JesusisOurSaviour
JesusisOurSaviour
Dear Dave,
I am so sorry for the loss of your precious wife, Jeanne.
I am glad you came here, to our group...this "journey " can take you for a loop....just know everybody here, understands and cares about you. Keep venting it helps.
Hugs...Sandra
loveddogs
loveddogs
Dave, I am so very sorry for your loss. And it's good that you came here. Everyone gets what you are going through. No one wants to be here, but the compassion and understanding is amazing. Hugs to you, Michele
KimKos
KimKos
Dave...I am so sorry for your loss. Its a very tough journey and honestly if not for this site I think I cant imagine how I would be today. May you find some comfort here
lonely60
lonely60
I want to thank everyone for a welcome to this group that I never wanted to be a member. On Saturday night I found this sight out of despair as I spent all day in an intense outbreak of grief. It was the day after our anniversary without her. I have a very large support network but only a few understand what we are going through. I believe that on Saturday night both God and my Jeanne helped go to Google to find this group.
Coop84
Coop84
Dear Dave: I am also so sorry for you loss. You have found a wonderful site. We are all on the same horrible journey and to know that we are not walking alone helps to ease the madness of it all. I lost my Art to colon cancer. He had stage two tumor removed the summer of 2005. We thought we had it all. However, on January 21st while wintering in Arizona, he came home from golf and could not breath. It had come back in his liver and had spread through his chest wall cavity. He went to heaven on May 19th of last year. I can say that I am having more better days then bad. It is a rollercoaster of a ride and you have to hang on tight at times.
Come here often as we all get what you are going through!! Hugs. Sue
hgsdms
hgsdms
So sorry for your loss Dave. Yes I agree that you were "led" to this site by someone/something. I've often felt that same way. Many wonderful and understanding people here who know what you are going through. Friends/family/neighbors all are very helpful but until one has been through this loss, one cannot fully understand.
Darlene
Rainbow27
Rainbow27
Dave, so sorry for the loss of your wife Jeanne. My husband also died of the same horrendous disease. We went through a similar path - emergency room visits, hospital stays, his cancer also spread to his spine so he needed injections into his spine every two weeks at hospital, radiation, feeding tube, then hospice. He was healthy man previous, led a squeeky clean life hiking, gym so I always felt nothing made sense. The love of my life now gone. This is a caring place to share and be comforted. Many healing hugs to you...
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