Widows & Widowers Support Group

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31 year old Widower

prk218
prk218
What a crazy and messed up situation life has dealt me. I am 22 weeks pregnant with twins (our first after rounds of IVF) and my husband passed suddenly 2 weeks ago from a heart attack. I am looking for others and what has helped them. I know that I need to be strong for the babies but it is so hard. I had an ultrasound yesterday and when I got done I wanted to call my husband but knew that I could not and it just makes me so sad.

Any advice? I am going to see my Pastor tomorrow and am going to a support group run through griefshare.org on Sunday. Wish me luck.
limasc
limasc
I was also 31 years old when I lost my husband 1 1/2yrs ago. Our son was 8 months old. My husband passed unexpectedly from a stroke. So we have similar lives. I can't imagine giving birth without your husband there, especially after all you went through to get pregnant. All I can say is this, those babies will be your life and they will get you through your loss. They will be your smiles, your happiness, your husband's legacy. Somedays it will be hard to look at them because you will see him in them, but it will also bring you a smile as you think he is in them and you will, in little pieces, have him forever.

It gets better. It really does. You have to allow the sadness, the grief. Let it come and then let it go. There can and will be happiness again. You will go through a lot until you get there. You just have to stay positive, stay busy, and keep moving forward.

If you ever would like to talk, send me a message. My heart goes out to you.

Lisa
lespreludes
lespreludes
I am so very sorry for your sudden loss. DS is a great site to come and share and learn how to adjust to this journey, this new reality, that each one of us has had to experience one day at a time.

Many blessings to you. Please come and share here often,
lespreludes