Widows & Widowers Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.

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ddhaeder 05/12/2011

My name is Deb. My husband Dennis died on April 12, 2011 after an 18 month battle with glioblastoma (brain tumor). We were married 38 years. I worked full time til I went out on disability the middle of Feb as I have back and knee problems. Am getting surgeries for myself lined up for after my son's wedding in Ft Worth TX on June 25 - the day after what would have been our 39th anniversary. I had wanted to join a widow or grief support group meetings now but with treatments that I am having on my back, I may not feel up to driving and sitting for meetings so that will have to be for later. In the meantime, thought maybe an online group would be good for me.

Deb

deleted_user 05/12/2011

Welcome to the group, and I am so sorry for your loss. I know how painful your journey is, we all do, and so share your sorrow, and we will be here for you . It is a wonderful site, and I am so glad that I found it when I did. Take care and hope to hear from you again. Hugs~Shelley

deleted_user 05/12/2011

Hi Deb and welcome! I have been coming to this site for about 2 months and it sure does help. I could not find a group to join in town so this has been a Godsend. Glad you have a happy event to celebrate and wish you the best on your surgery. Kathi

deleted_user 05/12/2011

Hi Deb,
I really hate to "welcome" you to this group - because I know that means that you have lost part of yourself - the dues that we have paid to join this group are much too high. BUT, I am glad that you're here - I'm glad that you have found us and I hope that you find as much support, understanding, friendship and comfort that I have here. I am so sorry for your loss - and you are so new to this journey - I hope that you will come here often.
Be good to yourself, take care of yourself and take one baby step at a time. That is all that we can do.
Sending you a hug,
Chris

heartsick1 05/12/2011

Hi Deb:

I am sorry for your loss. You have come to a good place, I am glad you found us. I have been here for five months and do not think I could have made it without this site.

lovelos 05/12/2011

Welcome to DS and so sorry for the loss of your husband. You have come to a good place to talk to people who feel your pain and understand what you are going through. Sending you my prayers, Lu Ann

Wmsbaby 05/12/2011

Sorry you had to join this walk of ours. I've been here almost eight months. It is a Godsend to me. I learned so much of what I do that I don't know why is normal - if there is such a thing-for this journey. Feel free to ask questions, vent, read or whatever helps you. I know there are a couple of widows here that lost their husband to the same type of cancer your Dennis had. Many of us, me included, lost our spouse to cancer and can understand some of that journey
as well. Come here often, it really does help!

deleted_user 05/12/2011

Welcome Deb, so sorry about the loss of your husband. I've found that this site fits the bill for me. Feel free to visit this site any time, day or night- you'll always have listening ears. Peace to your heart.

deleted_user 05/13/2011

Hi Deb, Welcome to DS. I'm so sorry you have to endure surgery so soon after your loss. We will be here for you. The people on this site are the most caring and supportive folks I've ever had the pleasure to talk to.

You are brand new on this journey, so feel free to vent, grieve and be yourself. We're not here to judge and everyone goes thru this at their own pace. So take care, and let us know how you are doing. Hugs, Kathy

edithbathgate 05/13/2011

I am so sorry about the loss of yous husband. The people and support here have been very helpful to since my husband died in December. I hope you'll find the same support and kindness.

deleted_user 05/13/2011

I am so sorry for your loss. Welcome to the group....but, I wish you didn't have to be here. DS has been such a help to me. Having people here that you can talk to and vent with, people that understand exactly where you are coming from and what you are going through is so important. I am glad you found us. Hugs to you today, Dawn

swindy 05/13/2011

Welcome to a place none of us wanted to be however I think you will find us very helpful. i couldn't have made it without the good people here to help. No one here judges anybody or anything we all are going through the same thing and I think you will like it here. Diane

NewRoadsForMe 05/13/2011

Deb, welcome, and I offer my deepest sympathy in the loss of your husband. To compound your stress, you also have surgery to deal with. I am so sorry this comes so close together in time. You mentioned difficulty in driving and sitting, so this support group will be just right for you I hope! You can say anything at all that is on your mind related to your grief and you can do it anytime during the 24 hours of the day. Someone is almost always on here. Best wishes for success in your surgeries. And I truly hope your son's wedding will be a joy for you, although sadness will be a part, too. Thinking of you,
Kathleen

deleted_user 05/13/2011

So sorry for your pain, my husband passed away last October, with a brain tumor, and this group has helped me immensely. I wish you a quick recovery from surgery, and be really good to yourself. Hugs, Barb

deleted_user 05/13/2011

Hello Deb,and welcome.I lost my wife on April 24 2011.I found this site and its been a very big help to me.The people here are caring,and have been thru the this terrible journey we must endure.Take care.Tom

deleted_user 05/13/2011

Hi Deb, I'd like to offer my sympathy and welcome you. Hopefully you will find as much comfort here as I have. Now you will always have a place to go for support. My thoughts are with you. Linda

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