she knows, you've already told her. So I mean tell her "this is what I am, if you think I am not, send me to a therapist and we will see what a specialist says." Then you kill two birds with one stone, you are out to her whether she likes it or not and if she takes your dare you get therapy to be able to start on the path. You might also tell her all she is doing by denial of who you are is alienating "her little girl" and use her words against her. That is exactly what she is doing to you. Your friends should at that point use he and him and the name you want to be called by in front of her. let her contend with the fact that everyone else is fine with it and its only her, may cause her to wake up a bit. I don't know how long ago you started bringing this up but you have to keep in mind all of this for her is the death of her child and learning who this other person is. they are going to go though all the stages of grief that everyone goes through and the first one is denial, then sadness, then bargaining, and lastly acceptance. This doesn't mean that you cant be you though. I mean lets be real, you are 16, she cant legally take your home away by telling you to get out, that would be legal issues for her. She really cant stop you from being you since she isn't around 24x7 and when you turn 18, she cant do anything at all because you are legally an adult. My advice is, lay it out flat, throw the doctors diagnosis into it and let her know the result of her adamant denial. then live your life but do so compassionately, she is dealing with something brand new and has to be given time to get through those stages. So be patient with her. 8 years now I have been out to my mom, she still calls me he almost all the time and uses my old name... she has 32 years of memories, that's a lot of programming to change and it wont happen overnight and I see she does try. so there is a bit of give and take there. You may not be able to do anything overly radical to give her that time, but that doesn't mean you cant come to a common ground with her.

I think wyndwytch has it right. My child came out to us about a month ago. At 20 yrs old, it's hard for a parent to all of a sudden change a pronoun or even the name, even if willing. I understand that my child feels like the opposite sex but it is difficult for a parent to change their thinking like switching on a light switch. As my husband and I have discussions about the kid, it's hard to us the correct pronoun. Especially since our child is still living as the sex born to. The kid has been doing research for yrs but has never spoken to anyone about it. That is the next step. Remember to think about it from the other side. Good luck to you.

thank you guys, I'm trying to ease up around her and not hold back as much when it comes to being myself. she's been having a hard time with it and she's still not accepting me but i definitely don't feel as stressed.

glad that is helping. As she sees the positive changes I would hope she would come around.