Better to vent here than to brother as he will be idiot he is anyway! Hugs!
Diverticulitis sucks I was admitted w perforated colon because of mine! No fun at all! Hugs sweety hold your head high on doing so much at Moms!

Agreed..diverticulitis is extremely painful! It does not seem to be uncommon for siblings to show true colors at such a sad time. Hopefully time will heal.

How I can relate to your story in some ways. Except for my bro did the work being execector. Only, not to her wishes and I had no say. I never could even find where my mom's ashes were buried in a cemetery that she would not have wanted. I called, and given general area, I went and no one there to help. There was supposed to be even a small plack I thought, but nothing. She could hv had an honorable spot in Arlington cemetary, or we could have taken a boat out as she requested and spread the ashes into deep ocean. But no.
As far as cleaning her place out, he sent his greedy wife. They were all a out value and what she could snag for her family members. I was in mourning.
Sorry bout the divirticulitis. I hear it can be helpful to stay away from certain foods. Good luck. I hope you can keep it under control. Take easy on yourself.

Wow, what a project you had cut out for you, Diane. Take care of yourself.

So sorry for you having to deal with this, Diane. I don't think I could have done what you are doing. I would be too angry. Hang in there. It will be over soon.

Many sympathies on the project you've got to face. I'd be furious, as that's the sort of thing my late sis would do. Slow deep breaths, take care of yourself, okay?

to my friends with diverticulitus....it has been 10 days since my symptoms started and 4 days since i was diagnosed at the ER. I am seeing my doctor on Monday. I am still pretty ill. I guess I am just looking for some promises that I will feel better eventually. I am so bloated I want to cry. I actually own shirts that will no longer fit across my stomach. I have been googling for an hour and cannot find any info on how to address the bloating.

http://jama.jamanetwork.com/article.aspx?articleid=1814217

http://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/study-says-aggressive-treatment-for-diverticulitis-is-often-overused-201401156978

Some articles I saw. The JAMA one looks like you have to pay for. Did the ER put you on antibiotics? Everything I read said that isn't always necessary. If they did, maybe that's why you're bloated?

I hope you start feeling better soon!

I am so sorry that you have diverticulitis. Please take care of yourself. I have a brother too who has shown his true colors lately. I think it is admirable that you cleaned your mother's house.

Again please take care of yourself.

Hugs.

I dunno what to do about bloating....pink pepto bizmal?

hope you feel better soon. mom had that and she just watched what she ate. she never had meds. now for sure i can relate to you and bro situation. now i was ex'tor, and i am oldest, but what a mess. how he treated mom with head games, which she never saw, he seldom came to see her in the assisted home, for one. and as alzheimers progressed, he just wanted to ''cash'' her out..as in she is done for, might as well put her in nursing home til gone.. UGH. and then he came late to her viewing for family, made jokes, real piece of work, and never came top the church service memorial service at all. well he showed his true colors. and i agree with what someone said, family sure show themselves at times like this and i am believeing every family has one to keep things stirred up, and usually one does all the work and has the most heart ache all way round. looseing the family member, the stress and the grief of the one family member being a pain. it got so bad, i was assaulted. he is one miserable, spoiled, hateful, unhappy, man. what u have to remember are these are his issues, nothing you done. as hard as it is, and you want to just hit or slap him so you feel better. or so u think. not the thing to do. you have to be the better of two here. best not say any more than u have to. just do what u need to do,,what is right for your mom to get things settled. shame it is this way...but i have found it shows 'itself' in most families. hugs to you. i understand what u r going thru all to well. and of all times, stress is not helping your health either. glad u are getting to a doc soon. let us know what doc tells you to do. i know diet plays big part. hugs.

I have an appointment with my GP tonight....I'm hoping I am put in the hospital. I am in that much pain. There was another incident with my bro.....I got screamed at over something he claims I did not tell him that I know I did. Even my husband said he remembers me telling my brother. And now that the house is emptied out, I want to vacuum, clean the bathroom etc...before handing over the keys. I feel it is the right thing to do. I called him planning to ask him for help...he cut me off at the pass by saying 'if YOU think it needs to be done...have at it...but I won't do it"

Well I cannot do it...I'm too sick. I think a lot of this may be my fault. He intimidates me. Something happened quite a while ago that we have yet to work out. I was feeling overwhelmed with everything my mom expected of us while she was still living....and one of my cousins knew about this and must have said something to my brother. Because my brother called me and said i need to stop telling people he is not helping because if I do not he will never speak to me again. I don't know if my cousin misunderstood, and thought bro was not helping and needed to be talked to..or what. I had merely said i was stressed out. I told my bro I never said that but he was boiling and refused to listen I let him and others get away with stuff. I have problems standing up for myself. The thing is.....he is all that's left. All grandparents, both parents, and our youngest brother are gone. I want a good relationship with him. He just does not seem to have the time for me. Maybe if I were different. Not so depressed all the time...I dunno.

I would write him out of my will....then forget he exists....and never talk to him again....his asshole is too big to deal with and he would prefer it that way anyway as he said....
hope the GP put u in hospital or gives some cure to this pain...hugs bill