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Stress management defines stress as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction.Stress can be overwhelming. This community is for best practices in stress management.

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SilentMaid 03/23/2014

This morning my fiance and I had a little argument over money. He makes a little more than I do, but sometimes I feel like I spend more on things for the house and food even though he pays half the bills. We have tried to evenly distribute the expenses, but that doesn't always seem to pan out. I feel like if we don't combine a checking account for just bills, we'll always be pointing the figure at each other on who spends more on what. I can't have this stress on my relationship. Does anyone have any advice on what we should do?? I really could use some, please.

bayrabbit01 03/24/2014

My husband and I work together and pay all the bills from our combined income. If you really feel that you are getting the short end of the stick as far as buying food for the house or other things for the house, I suggest you keep track of everything you spend and discuss it with him at the end of the month. Or you could discuss each and every purchase as it comes up...but that could end up being a big pain in the ass after a while!!

SilentMaid 04/09/2014

Thank you, Bayrabbit01. We have decided that we are going to share a checking account and put money toward our bills in it. That takes a lot of stress off of my shoulders because I felt like if we kept things separate, it would keep dividing us. If we are going to build a life together, we should keep everything together. It is easier that way. I thank you so much for your input! :)

deleted_user 04/13/2014

I know this is a somewhat dated topic, I just want to add that I feel like this is a good idea! Open an account, add up the total of all the bills and divide it by two then each month you both deposit that number of monies.

You could even use a credit card to do it, pay all your bills with it then settle the balance at the end of the month in two payments; yours and his. That way if groceries or whatever run more expensive there doesn't have to be dialogue.

deleted_user 04/29/2014

i totally understand where your coming from, we thought it would get better this year... bf got a FT job... i still have my PT job... but we are still struggling, and it's not like i spend any money on myself... bc i work PT, i cook supper, and i buy the groceries needed... clean, take care of our animals... thank god we don't have children...

deleted_user 05/02/2014

When splitting bills, I have found that amounts always fluctuate. My husband pays the electric bill and always complains about it going up in the winter. I cover the grocery bill and that includes spending more when we have guests for dinner. We just stick to the plan that he pays electric, phone bill, and half rent and I pay groceries, half rent, and daycare no matter what the amount is. If I want to save money, I simply cut back on grocery spending and he understands just how instead of cranking the heat up all winter or running the air conditioner all summer I understand that it saves him money to open the windows or put on an extra layer of clothes. We have some structure but I like the ability to save when I need to.

deleted_user 05/17/2014

Start a business together and make a lot of money together as a team and then you wont have the stress of having a boss anymore or a time clock. :-)

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