Stress Management Support Group
Stress management defines stress as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction.Stress can be overwhelming. This community is for best practices in stress management.
Hello everyone,
This is my first visit to the stress management support group and I can really use some advice. My parents are what I called "worry warts"I still call them that from time to time. They would worry about everything, especially me. I remember telling them to just take things as they come. Well, now I'm grown and I have one of the most stressful jobs EVER! I had to move into a city that I just cannot stand for my job. On the days that I have to work, I dread having to go every min before my shift and every min there. Sometimes i cry, lose my appetite and feel beyond sad just pretty much defeated. On my days off (like today) instead of relaxing and FORGETTING about my job I just constantly think about it. Why cant i shut that place out? Its so disappointing too because I worked for years in school, and on the job training to get this job and i despise it. I cant leave because I need the money to pay off the school loans. What a mess! I also feel ashamed of myself because I should be grateful that I'm employed when there are so many people out there in need of employment. My question is, does anyone know how to stop thinking about things you just don't want to thing about anymore? How do I get out of this rut? I just wanna be happy and have fun again. Hope all of you are doing well and thank you for taking the time to read this!
This is my first visit to the stress management support group and I can really use some advice. My parents are what I called "worry warts"I still call them that from time to time. They would worry about everything, especially me. I remember telling them to just take things as they come. Well, now I'm grown and I have one of the most stressful jobs EVER! I had to move into a city that I just cannot stand for my job. On the days that I have to work, I dread having to go every min before my shift and every min there. Sometimes i cry, lose my appetite and feel beyond sad just pretty much defeated. On my days off (like today) instead of relaxing and FORGETTING about my job I just constantly think about it. Why cant i shut that place out? Its so disappointing too because I worked for years in school, and on the job training to get this job and i despise it. I cant leave because I need the money to pay off the school loans. What a mess! I also feel ashamed of myself because I should be grateful that I'm employed when there are so many people out there in need of employment. My question is, does anyone know how to stop thinking about things you just don't want to thing about anymore? How do I get out of this rut? I just wanna be happy and have fun again. Hope all of you are doing well and thank you for taking the time to read this!
There are many self help books for stress and anxiety. You may want to read some to see what suggestions can allieve your strong cycle of stress you have associated with your job.
Lastly you may want to see if you can find a job in a more pleasant city. Environment is very important and it sounds like the one you have is not working well for you. If you do indeed despise your job, that's a big price to pay perhaps too big.
Books are a good way to get a variety of information. And, libraries have quite a few really GOOD ones. Speaking of libraries, CDs, DVDs, are also great sources {mood music, yoga, breathing}.
Good luck! Remember YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PART OF YOUR LIFE's CHOICES.
We all find ourselves in similar situations, and how we handle them is very important. Keep you in mind.
I meditate each morning for thirty minutes (at Church, actually). It lightens any load I may be carrying.
peace&luv, Franciann