Isn't Facebook the worst?! I don't know why I still go on there either. I lost my son, Junior, 6 months ago. He was 39 1/2 weeks. I had a perfectly healthy pregnancy and they couldn't figure out why he died. Around the time I gave birth, about 8 other people close to me had babies. Now I get to see all the updates on how their children are doing. It is a constant reminder of the age my son should be and the milestones he should be reaching.

Now that I'm trying to get pregnant (with no luck for the passed 5 months), I hate seeing pregnant women and the sonograms they post on Facebook, especially when it's a second or third child. I try so hard to be happy for people but it is sooooo hard. I want to be a mom so badly and it makes me feel bad that I am jealous of other people. I think right now, that is what I have a hard time getting passed as well.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't know why we have to go through this much pain and then to have trouble conceiving is just rubbing salt into the wound. I'm glad you joined this group. It's filled with amazing women who understand completely. I'll be praying for your BFP. ((Lots of Hugs))

I know what you mean. It is tough. I talked so much about my pregnancy on facebook - I was so angry with myself for that because after I lost my baby, all of my facebook posts were just painful reminders. I am ashamed to say it, but I deleted everything pregnancy / baby related from my facebook page - I just couldn't deal with it.
My friend and I got pregnant at the same time, with the idea that we would both be on maternity leave together and get to spend time together with our babies.
Looking back now it was a disaterous plan.
I still can't believe that things turned out so bad for me in the end. I see her posts on facebook about her new arrival and I feel so jealous. I know I will watch her baby reach its milestones in life - first tooth, first birthday etc. and I will think that my baby would have been the same age etc.
But it is something those of us who lose babies all have to deal with. There will always be other babies and I hope we can just learn to cope with that as time goes on.

I shut down my Facebook acct after losing Chiara; I just could not take the constant announcements and baby pictures.

Please do not feel guilty about feeling jealous and resentful; it is normal and you cannot help what you feel. I find it so strange that I can be experiencing so many different emotions at the same time. It is confusing and exhausting.

I am so sorry for your struggle. We are here for you! ((hugs))

Facebook is the worst. Sometimes I want to delete mine, like you, but I know I want to "keep up" with most people. I have been getting good at "hiding" people's posts and "unsubscribing" people!
My sister in law is pregnant with a boy (my angel is a boy) and I just want to hide from her for, like, five years. My son was supposed to be the first grandbaby by a year and a half!! Sometimes I hope whatever happened to my son is genetic and their boy gets it too...but of COURSE I change my mind two seconds later and hope and hope and pray their baby gets here okay. I dread seeing her, but she lives ten minutes away and our husbands are really close brothers so I have to suck it up. I lie awake thinking about her stupid baby shower and how I can't go but I am going to feel so terrible when I don't because I know how much it would mean to her. Then, when I see her, it's fine and great and I feel terribly guilty and just awful for my jealousy and anger.
There's not much we can do except get through our feelings. You can't make them something different, and it would only be harder on everyone if you tried. Your situation is frustrating and sad and annoying and angering and awful...and you deserve to feel all the feelings involved because you have to live through them! I totally get what you are saying--you are not alone. Good luck.

I also have had bad thoughts about other people who are pregnant and why they don't lose their babies also. I guess I just want everyone to be in the same boat as me. But of course we don't actually mean these thoughts - it is just anger and frustration and jealousy that makes us think like that. All of us know that nobody deserves to lose a child.
My mother always says to me that God needs to get his angels from somewhere, and I should be proud that he chose my little girl to be one.

Thank you for your kind words! I'm so glad I'm justified in my feelings. I also wonder why people get their babies and we don't get ours. And I wonder what if they lost theirs too? Then I wouldn't be the only one in my circle. Because sometimes that's one of the hardest things as well; being the only one out of a group of friends who knows this horrible feeling. I hate having bad feelings towards other people's babies. It's supposed to be such a joyous part of life! But I feel like it's ruined me forever. Will I EVER feel like I'm having an ok pregnancy? Will I EVER feel completely comfortable during pregnancny again? I really don't think so. And that scares me.

My Kathryn Grace was born an angel at almost 37 weeks after an uneventful pregnancy....no warning & ever since facebook has been the worst! I was going to delete it but then I came across a couple others that are also angel mommies...that is the only reason I didn't. Just last week two of my facebook friends had their babies...both on the same day~ it was like a double kick to my stomach when I signed on to see those great big photos that they added of their new babies. I balled & balled for a day straight. Ever since they gave birth I feel like I have slipped backward in this whole grieving process! I do not understand why this happedned to all of us & cannot make any sense of it. I do not want anyone else to suffer as we are but yet I cannot be happy for them either.

Hugs to all of you

I am so sorry for your loss! I totally understand your feelings of jealousy, because I have them too! Last wk I had to go to my Ob-gyn because I had to have yet another ultrasound to follow up on the surgical procedure I underwent because I had retained Hunter's placenta. I have been fortunate enough to not be in the waiting room before with other pregnant women, however on this day it seemed like all the pregnant women in the state of IL were in the waiting room with me. One after another came out of the ultrasound room..Smiling and looking at their ultrasound photographs with such happiness and pride. I even heard one couple say "See I told you it was going to be a boy"...I remember those days of happiness when I was pregnant with Hunter..I just wanted to scream "Don't take it for granted that you will deliver a healthy baby. Any moment something can go wrong and you are just being naive. Take it from me I just went through the loss of my son." Of course I didn't, however I had to step out into the hallway and wait so that I could be called directly into the room and not have to sit with all of those pregnant women. Truly...Right now...Don't really want to know about anyone's pregnancy or for that matter see anyones baby pictures. Sometimes I feel like I just want everyone to be sad like me. Yes..Pity party at it finest! I pray everyday that I will be able to recover from this loss and some time soon try for another baby, however even that is something that pisses me off.."I have to start over? I only had another few months..Why do I have to start over?" AUCHHHHHHHH Thanks for letting me get this out there. I don't wish these feelings on anyone, however in a crazy way it is nice to know that I am not completely losing my mind and that others are also thinking these things also! Big hugs.

I deleted my facebook , I dont really keep up with anyone from when i was younger because they were pretty much all bad influences and my family i just call on the phone.PLus i dint like how others acted like there lives were so perfect.. always posting everything they were doing. and pictures of how happy they are..lol geesh i sound angry. anywho i get jealous to, im jealous of my sister who is having a baby..jealous of my sister inlaw who acts like she has the best life...im jealous of skinny girls because im over weight. I go on a diet for two weeks and then i feel like trying again for a baby, so i go off it.. And then i give my self hell for being fat and trying to have another baby. ugh..im totally pmsing tonight..AF should be here anyday now. :/ i just feel confused to, i wish i was happier.