Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
Hi folks, I haven't posted much lately - although I have been reading - mainly because I really haven't had much to say or add. The way things are at the moment - well, they are as they were. Nothing has changed. Nothing has moved on. I'm not sure if this is because my partner has gone as far as he needs to - which isn't very far really, just a bit of female clothing, a bit of make up, body shaving etc - or if it's because he's scared to go any further. Or if he thinks I will leave him if he does. I've tried talking to him, but he insists that he has nothing more to say really, without going over old ground. In fact he now starts to get annoyed if I try to discuss things.
I'm not sure how I feel. In a way, 'normal' is good - we are just going about our daily family life etc, but I can't help feeling he is denying his own feelings. He says he isn't. He says is ok with the way things are. No more talk of hormones or more presenting - I have given him plenty of opportunities to present 'her' to me but he says he just doesn't want to. Doesn't feel like it. Am I trying to force the issue too much? I really don't know if I should just shut up and forget everything that has happened and just accept him the way he is now (which is fine....). Should I just take his word for it and leave things alone?
Any advice?
The first thing I felt about her suggestion, was anxiety. I’m scared of the conversations that will happen. And I don’t want anything to come up while my mom is with us.
We’ve been having a reprieve. The last time we talked about it she was vague “thinking out loud,” which makes it difficult to know what is really going on. She has some health issues, and said she doesn’t know if taking testosterone will be too much for her liver. She has been seeing a doctor for Chinese herbs and acupuncture, whom she really respects, and will ask him his opinion. But the appointment isn’t for weeks. So... waiting...