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I had a post on here awhile ago about how I was nervous when my fiancee bathed our daughter. I didn't truly think he would do anything but the fear was there.
We talked about it, as was advised on my previous thread, and he told me he understood. That I could watch him bathe her for awhile, and that he would listen to what I told him.
I got comfortable enough to let him do it on his own.
Well, here's where it gets weird, for me anyways. When I was an infant I showered with both my mother and my father. Lots of families did it. My father was not my abuser. He never did anything inappropriate.
The other day, my SO was bathing her, and I went in to grab her lotion and brush to prep for her after bath care, and he was in the tub with her. Nothing sexual AT ALL!
But I lost it. I started yelling and crying. I don't know why? He was doing nothing wrong. I have friends who bathe with their kids, as do their husbands.
Now he won't really talk to me, he just looks at me all sad and hurt. And I know I was wrong. But I can't apologize. And all the trust we built in the bathing process is gone.
What do I do?
We talked about it, as was advised on my previous thread, and he told me he understood. That I could watch him bathe her for awhile, and that he would listen to what I told him.
I got comfortable enough to let him do it on his own.
Well, here's where it gets weird, for me anyways. When I was an infant I showered with both my mother and my father. Lots of families did it. My father was not my abuser. He never did anything inappropriate.
The other day, my SO was bathing her, and I went in to grab her lotion and brush to prep for her after bath care, and he was in the tub with her. Nothing sexual AT ALL!
But I lost it. I started yelling and crying. I don't know why? He was doing nothing wrong. I have friends who bathe with their kids, as do their husbands.
Now he won't really talk to me, he just looks at me all sad and hurt. And I know I was wrong. But I can't apologize. And all the trust we built in the bathing process is gone.
What do I do?
The first time I was abused was when I was 10 and taking a bath and my older brother came in the bathroom and just reached in the tub...OMG I hates baths. I say that only to give you some background on my perspective.
Communicate your boundaries and keep them.
What I said was you have issues, which you yourself admitted so dont go blowing a gasket on me because the truth hurts. You have issues so accept it
Also I dont take medications; some people need them (or think they need them) while others function without them. I happen to be one of those people that functions fine without them, and regardless if you disagree you are the last person to be therapeutic recommendations
Also you never mentioned your daughters age in the post
If your daughter is the infant in the picture then she is too young to even understand or comprehend nudity in the bathtub with her father. There is nothing wrong with nudity and if you make it out to be an ugly taboo then again this your own self created problem.
I dont understand the hang up most people have with nudity
The fact your husband had the door open and you were able to come in indicates to me he wasnt trying to hide anything and you knew he was bathing her. You could both bathe her together.
@Post #14
Nice novel there
Way too much information and why do you need to justify the normalcy in your life to others as if it really matters what others think, but apparently it does in some deep psychological way.
Just reading all that made me dizzy
Sorry, last time I checked you had no right to tell people that they need medication and therapy! I can see suggesting therapy, but making an jack ass remark about how therapists might be able to help and that I need medication is suggesting that you have judged me and passed me off as someone who is messed up beyond belief...and I'm not. I can admit I have issues...unlike others!
If you don't like to read what I type then why are you even reading it? Apparently you need to feel important and you do so by getting your jollies harassing others.