Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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pahatfi
pahatfi

I was sexually abused by my 1/2 brother who was 4 years older than i was. My sister was 2 years older than i, she claims she doesn't remember, even though she was present during several attempts my brother made. my mother knew that my father sexually abused my brother, i'm not sure if she knew what my brother was doing to me. when i told here many years later her response was poor d, he did to you what your father did to him. not a word that she was sorry for what had happened to me.


i have no memories before i was 6 years old. my first memory was bring home my baby brother. i got in trouble because i cried because i couldn't see him. i got to sit on the couch until bed time. i never got to play with him, or even get a diaper or wash rag for him. he was my fathers first son and he was the favored child.


my dad died when i was 11, probably a good thing since my mother wasn't protecting us kids from his abuse. i'm sure she was afraid to divorce him with four kids to take care of. 



donnawanda
donnawanda
It must be maddening beyond belief to tell your mother you were sexually abused and have her express compassion for the one who abused you. Well, hurtful beyond belief. I get that the loud and clear message in your household was that boys are important, girls are not.

Your sister might well not remember what happened to you, even though she was there - the same way you don't remember anything before age 6. It sounds like there was a lot of trauma in your home, and trauma affects memory.

I am very sorry for all you have been through. I hope you are or will be in therapy to help you heal from it all.
ScaredOfDark
ScaredOfDark
I have a lot of trouble with memories, too, since I was also very young. I am in therapy now and it is the best thing I have ever done. As my therapist tells me: long term gain for short term pain. It is painful, excruciating, but I remind myself I am safe now. The memories are coming back and they're scary but I don't get to fully live life because I spend so much time denying it all and covering it up in my own mind. I am sorry for what you have been through. The boys are favored in my family, too. I wasn't "allowed" to feel... I think my Mom and some family knew but couldn't face it and it lead to the deeper repression of memories as I thought it was "weak" to feel...
pahatfi
pahatfi
I've been in therapy several times over the years and it did help. it was hard feeling that my mother didn't take care f me...she emotionally abandoned me as a little girl, I don't remember hugs or I love you growing up. I wasn't allowed to feel either...don't talk about it was what I heard.
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