Sexual Abuse Support Group

Sexual abuse is a relative cultural term used to describe sexual relations and behavior between two or more parties which are considered criminally and/or morally offensive. Different types of sexual abuse involve: Non-consensual, forced physical sexual behavior such as rape, incest or sexual assault, or psychological forms of abuse, such as verbal sexual behavior or...

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kayrl
kayrl
do you find yourself having sex with whoever? i seem to be. and like it's not very offten but i mean i don't even like the person but yet im having sex with them and i hate every minute of it. is this normal?
deleted_user
deleted_user
You kind of remind me of my daughter. It comes from within and your searching for love in all the wrong places. You have to be safe these days as there is to many dieseases out there. If this something you have no control over you should seek help. This is not normal behavior and you need to find out why you are acting on this. I wish you luck and i hope you will find out. kelly
kayrl
kayrl
i talked with my counselor about this on thursday. it was good but a lil hard. i kind of hope we don't talk about it next time. but i guess it was good to talk about it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Absolutely NO drinking in bars with strange men around me unless I am with a group that will not let me out of their sight!! That could end up being a very bad situation for me, Billy.
Kweeks, I know that those that have been sexually abused DO act out on this. We can tend to use this loveless, joyless, pleasureless sex as a form of self abuse. It is common amounst us, as common as the opposite reaction of "don't touch me!" We KNOW it is not normal and don't really feel all that proud about it but it is, for me, a compulsive behavior that I cannot seem to stop doing. And the self blame and shame just keep piling up on top of the original problem. I am a 45 year old woman who knows only too well about STDs and looking for love in all the wrong places, but I am not looking for LOVE when I do this to myself. I am looking to hurt me in some sick way, looking also for approval from a man in the only way I was taught how. Yeah, this is not normal behavior to the rest of society, but for the folks who are recovering or trying to recover from sexual abuse? Why, welcome to our world.
I do agree that counseling is probably one of the only ways to get past this, but it is also one of the more difficult things to admit. It's a point of shame and no pride or respect for myself and I do NOT like admitting that, find it hard to. I also do not want to be judged, and I am trying hard to be abstinent but it's not easy.
I took a little bit of offense here, and I do apologize, kweeks, but something about your post got my dander up. I'm sure your post was not meant the way I took it. I'm sorry if you take offense at mine, but I needed to speak my mind.