i hope my therapist and i will be able to fix this and get me to stop.

Its up to you my little dear to fix it. :)

Hugs

I know you can do it, will is a thing that comes in time and so is strength and empowerment. :)

i know i can do it it's just believe i can i guess. idk i moved my appt up to this thursday so im a lil nervous. i was suppost to see her on monday but i have a chorus thing that day and we don't leave till like later that after noon and my appt is at 8 but still i wanted to move it.

YOU CAN DO IT! *hugs*

thanks!

http://dailystrength.org/people/325548/journal/1333465

Just for you dear.

HUGS

Dont learn your own lessons, learn from mine.

thanks for letting me read that. and im sorry it all happend.

No need to be sorry, not your doing or your fault. Just learn from my mistakes, please.

i know, you just don't deserve any of that. ok, i'll try.

Not just me, you! You don't deserve any of this either. Dont forget about who is most important, YOU!

HUGS

You can do it I know you are strong, just you got to believe in you,

ya ok.

Come on its bad enough we beat ourselves up over being abused and we feel ashamed and everything else bad we go threw form this.

We don't need to beat ourselves up.

We also have to have faith in ourselves and care about our body's and ourselves, first and for most.

Mot of all we need to know we didn't deserve any bad that was bestowed upon us by users and abusers.

You deserve to speak up for yourself. You deserve so much better and so much more.

HUGS

You know I care about you girlie.

Yes, I have found myself often in this position and I have recently decided that abstinence is the best course of action for me until I learn to treat myself with more respect. It is easier said than done because "NO" is the toughest little word to even say, much less have respected. But I am trying and I will get this worked out through therapy eventually! Wish me luck! :-)
Unfortunately, sexual abuse has two effects on the victims of it. One is "hypo-sexuality" in which the victim avoids all sexual contact if possible. The other is "hyper-sexuality" in which the victim seeks out sexual contact. I have seen a lot of both from survivors and, if they've gone so far as to label these reactions, then they both must be pretty common responses. Normal? Well, maybe for us.......But I'm sure we can also change that in our lives.

Then change the word in your head to something else.

No = freedom or strong

Or use another language to say it.

No = Nein (German for no.)

if this is something some have done but stopped , how do you look back on it , especially if you havn't talked it through in therapy ?
and do you think it is something that can happen if you find yourself in a certain situation , even if you don't want it to happen , but you are out , some friends have left you , you've had some drinks ??
its something my gf did , but she finds it hard to face , and i worry that in a certain situation she might do something neither of us would want .
would appreciate some advice .