Sex / Pornography Addiction Support Group
Sexual addiction, also sometimes called sexual compulsion, is a form of psychological addiction to sexual intercourse and other sexual behavior.
"SEX ADDICTION IS NOT ABOUT SEX. It is about pain, it is about brain chemestry, and it is about core beliefs. When those things are addressed properly, the sex naturally responds to the righting of the relationship.
That just might be the most weird thing I've ever heard. That's like saying that heroine addiction isn't about heroine? Really? "
My question is this;
How many of you think that heroine addiction is about heroine? How many think Alcoholism is about alcohol. How may out there think Anger addiction is about anger?
That just might be the most weird thing I've ever heard. That's like saying that heroine addiction isn't about heroine? Really? "
My question is this;
How many of you think that heroine addiction is about heroine? How many think Alcoholism is about alcohol. How may out there think Anger addiction is about anger?
His failure to address your intimacy needs would result in some serious problems. Surely he knew that much? That had to be tough. I don't know how I might handle that...other than some serious discussion....a counselor....separation? My H never entirely ingnored me...that would have created a serious problem immediately. Because truly, I am much more sexual than he. He was often not interested...duh...I know why now? I just didn't know why at the time. Chalked it up to other things. Ahhhh, so dumb! I;m not sure which is worse...the fact that I was dumb...or knowing just how dumb now. I must have looked like an entire fool. How embarrassing that is.
And, I know it would be tough to have a mate who doesn't even try to create physical intimacy. Now, I can understand that happening after infidelity...because the mate that has been cheated on may well have been hurt enough to not be able to reciprocate. And that's too bad too. I do engage as best I can...and I suppose if I had never known what it feels like to experience sex coming from a place of love, and expression of that love, then I wouldn't miss anything. Not so. I only wish I could feel that way now....and I don't...because that really hurts when the truth is learned.
There just isn't much good that comes from any of these things in a marriage...or for that matter when not married. At least though, it seems like if an SA is not married, there isn't a trusting person involved to get hurt. What I mean is that...like my H...if he was that unsatisfied with me...not enough "rush" to suit him...he could have just said so. Then, he could have been released from his vows...got single...and carried on....rush-o-matic? Yes, it would have hurt some. But, not like looking back at thirty years, my time, my youth, my chance, for that marriage you spoke of...gone...no chance at all. The decision made for me.