I like the first option! I like to know what is coming but I don't want to know the ending before it starts. I like the trip.
But a quickie is always good too.

#1 would be nice.. #2 i think would kill me.. and #3 just seems like torture.. i'm patient, more patient than most i think but waiting several dates before any tomfoolery? oof.. no thanks lol

Mary I've had too many "quickie" only 5 minute men (Very big frown here).

I never truly had a good taste of any of the 3. I would love any , but I think the first would be the best.

(I am probably not patient enough for 3rd either. Especially since it has been so long. Lol)

After a long social dry spell due to Covid we started out on number 3 without clothes. She likes to work on our breathing and her lube together and manually stimulating each other.

Recently we went to number 1 and number 3 really enhanced it

That does sound good too.

I chose 3 in my current relationship.....

I'm thinking that depending on individual needs any of these options might be fine. With a really new acquaintance I would be grand enjoying bantering and flirting and getting a sense of each other before taking things further. But with someone a bit more fully introduced and interested and excited about stepping into and experimenting with how closeness together would feel and work, I would love to be able to say how much I was looking forward to mutual exploration and passionate making out, and if in the course of the evening we were both feeling positive that we wanted to explore that next step, to enjoying steamy exciting sex coupling. I am excited by the image of mounting and entering a partner bent over furniture because it excites me to think of positions that heighten penetration or tighten my partner's vagina so we get intense sensation, but the truth is that my partner's needs and health have to be a part of guessing what is going to be enjoyable, and what may be painful and harmful. I am in fairly good shape for someone my age and mostly have little aches and pains from joint changes, but any partner of any age may have in-
formation I need to not accidentally make love making unpleasantly painful. Better, I'm thinking, to enjoy very passionate lovemaking right away if both are wanting that, but be wee bit careful in bringing on accrobatics until morning comes and we see we have survived the first encounter and are both wanting of much higher intensity.

That may be best discussed as we gather the sheets for the washing the next morning and clean the floors and doors and halls and walls and furnitures and such that we found ourselves passionate in and on the night before...

I love the both of us knowing we plan to join up in sex and the foreplay and not having that bit of nervous question coming into that date. Not one of us should have to come in thinking they have to bring a perfect body to be "worthy" or "acceptable" to be appreciated in this intimate meeting. Every person we are with in this situation is a virgin to us since we have no experience with each other, and needs treating with our most "real" tender attentions.

I love the invitation to come into a woman's body and give what she asks for of slow and gentle entry or pounding fast thrusts, and deciding what we both most want to do with so many possibilities for foreplay and different forms of mutual stimulation and fucking and bedding together. I love the extended excitement of finding a climax and enjoying it, relaxing and then riding the next rollercoaster in some new form or position to a different new piece of excitement, and so on. I love to be welcomed to taste and touch and admire and be delighted in being hard and pulsating inside a woman and have her moaning and panting along with me enjoying that too.

Liam... Very wise advice to postpone the acrobatics til we do see how we fair that first encounter.
(I am afraid any chances of hanging from chandeliers are long gone for me. Haha)

Tied to bedposts may be another story. (Wink wink)

I am new so I am somewhat unfaliar with the rules; do we have to chose?

No you don't have to chose. You are welcome to just post a comment or opinion or simply read repsonses if you chose. Our group is basically to open up and say what's on your mind or post your own question. Welcome .

And PS I have to tell you when I saw your profile I did a double take. There is another friend I met on here (Daily Strength) and she and I are so alike in many ways including our naughty minds she made the comment we could be twins. So we refer to each other as our evil twin. lol

This other evil twin likes all 3 but I prefer 1 and 2. In the past few months my hubby has been more affectionate but he has never been that steamy passionate man that I wish he could be.

LOL. Is good to be getting some of what you want. I am thinking the chandelier hanging balancing against the door stuff may be beyond our 55 yr old plus realm of possibilities. You still have a few years left... perhaps if you toss him on the bed? (Big silly grin here)

"We may WANT our partner to be maximally steamy, but Then the World gives us Al Dente. Go figure."


Sex on the Brain Pandemic Handbook, Chapter 47: "Norman", p.14.