Geez and I thought it was just me. I've definitely got no patience these days I'm moody, cranky etc. Not sure if it's just the pain or the drugs but either way I know where you're coming from. Thankfully I don't have any little kids all mine are grown up and only have Hubby at home. He understands and just tends to ignore it when I have another of my hissy fits as he calls them.
Good luck with it
Kelly

Pain can really affect your mood - I know how cranky I was when my RA flared up. Listen to your body so you can watch how it impacts how you feel.

Lynne

I have the same problem...i get annoyed with myself....I even answear the phone by saying.."WHAT"...My daughter just gives me ..the look!!...lol


Kim

Carrying pain all the time takes a lot of energy out of me. So I sometimes get short with others when I see they could do something faster or better. I think it also has to do with the fact that we have to be problem solvers constantly. It might be about how to get a door open, carrying an armful of laundry, putting the groceries away, what ever. It all takes so much effort! I hope the adults around me get it by now, as for the grandkids, I find myself apologizing a lot. Rose

Thank you for asking this question and sharing. I have been feeling the same way and wondering what is wrong with me. I have ZERO patience for anything right now.
I hope that you get to feeling better. I think that will help with the patience. It is hard to concentrate or take on more when you are already overwhelmed with this disease and the pain that it brings.

I find that I get agravated with people when I hear then say stupid things......... lol,lol like if i hear someone say something like "oh i am having a bad cause I just could not get my hair to do what i wanted it to do. STUPID STUFF. I just feel so different from others. I almost feel tht healthy people really have no clue on life. so it makes me feel different! I just sometimes find myself sitting there listening to people and think you shallow shallow people. I guess it is not there fault they know no different. then i was with a few people and one was all upset crying. why were they crying????? today instead of walking 7 miles they could only walk 5 miles cause they just got tired. I just felt like "ARE YOU FOR REAL??????????? I MEAN YOU JUST DIDN'T SAY THAT DID YOU????????? and this person is 72!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am lucky I make it to 60!!!!!!!!

Totally! It was worse a couple of years ago when I was in really bad pain. But even though now I'm doing okay I still have very little patience. I find myself gritting my teeth alot and trying not to snap at stupid people. I think its partially the fatigue thing.... we have a limited number of spoons... and don't want to use them frivilously so anyone who asks us to use them without thinking or complains about the small stuff really gets on my nerves!

I'm really glad in a way that I'm single with no kids.... I think I might have killed them by now. Kidding. I used to be the most forgiving, patient, mild mannered person on the face of the earth.

Frequently now I can be seriously considered a B**ch. Maybe its the way I should have always been... looking out for me first instead of everyone else first. If that makes me a bit B**chy then so be it.

Now I call people on thier bulls**t.

I have come full circle in the past year. Used to be a patien, mild mannered, non-confrontational, quiet Southern Belle.
I now will not hesitate to tell it how it is. Call it like I see it. Speak my mind. I am sure my hubby thinks I am mentally ill sometimes!
Jess

Yeah well patience has never been my middle name.

I have tried to be more patient, i mean with myself, you can't hurry up doing something if your body isn't allowing you to go at full speed. so I have tried to learn patience in that regard, but in other things, no, I have no time for silly shit. yep I said it. basically.
Petty stupid insignificant crap, is what I call it. Pretty much similar to what you are saying Andrea.
i think when you go through the bs that we go through, life just takes on a whole different meaning, things that once perhaps meant something doesn't mean a thing to me now and I don't care and don't have patience for.
I do get short sometimes but i try really hard not to with my husband and son, but yeah I just snap at them sometimes.usually when i am having a particularly hard time and in pain, I just get so aggravated and aaaaaaaargh. Everything just irritates me.

And I want things done NOW, not later. and I get sooooo frustrated because I have to rely on someone else to help me with something and it doesn't get done in my time, but in their time.
Drives me nuts. LOL

I try all the deep breathing, and I was meditating, somehow that died a very quick death, got impatient with it......Ha ha ha lol lol....

i will try again at the meditation. it does help, just have to be consistent with it.

Yes- but I'm also pushing 50 and don't know how much I should be blaming impending menopause.....

My patience has definitely suffered- not that it was something i was gifted with anyway. But I get annoyed VERY easily. Also know that if you are on meds, some of those can affect mood (for me prednisone makes me not a very nice person to be around).
Know you aren't alone :)
Tort

Patience has been a real problem for a long time. Before the DX putting up with the constant pain and working on swollen feet made me pretty hard to live with. Now some of the meds have created problems. When I was on a lot of pred. and taking Gabipenten I was a real grouch. Getting of the Gab. and lower doses of pred. have helped a lot. Just putting up with RA and the fatigue can make you a little cranky. It comes with the territory. CB

Dealing with pain, not being able to plan ahead because you don't know what part of you will be hurting on that day, having to do everything slowly all contribute to lack of patience. As ou youngest daughter says, "You're a different person when your RA is around!!" is

Lord grant me patience, but hurry!

Someone actually gave me this on a coffee cup once upon a time ago (when I was much younger). I have always struggled with patience, but have learned the lesson that you don't want to pray for it... omgosh... I will never forget that lesson!

I am trying to work on the "accepting" part of patience. Prednisone makes the task harder, but I am easily knowing when I am being less than pleasant. (Trying to become a Southern belle by transplant, as Jess put it so well, although I will never be quiet.)

Hey, Charlie, tell me more about the problems you had with gabapentin (Neurontin) and how to best taper off of it. Currently tapering off the prednisone, at 5 mg now, and I am feeling lots less irritable. Prednisone will take away any patience you may have once possessed! (along with eventual bone mass... if you don't know the long term effects, you need to look it up)

I am doing better overall with patience, getting things done when I can, rather than right now, and being okay with it. More patience with others that are not in my social or family network, such as people I come into contact with at a store, etc. I do try to be as patient as I can with hubby, family and friends.

M06455, can you link the impatience with medications? Or is it stress from the pain? Or is it because you have a more limited amount of energy? I think the knowing why, and where it originates can help you manage it.

-daizy8

my patince is out of control lately also! Its just all i say and think is dar god give me a break! I have two young kids and a hubby who works alot.Always exhausted and going but they deserve a normal childhood s possible but its so hard!