Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
Where were you at one year ago today? -or- Where do you hope to be one year from now?
For me?
One year ago today I was deep in the fog. I had had my first experience with OM #1. Mostly emotional with one very short quasi public physical encounter and then he was gone. Moved 11 hrs away. I knew I would never see or hear from him again. I was sad and confused and very addicted to the way he had made me feel. At this time I was thinking I just needed time to get over him and I would go back to "normal." But that was not to be; so at this time last year I was between incidences. Soon to discover "online play" overlapped by a full PA 6 weeks before DDAY in mid May.
I am very thankful to be out of that and where I am now.
In one year I hope to be restored to communion in my church and to feel much more emotionally and spiritually stable and for the strengthening of my marriage to be better than ever. I also hope to be wearing those "one size smaller" jeans again.
For me?
One year ago today I was deep in the fog. I had had my first experience with OM #1. Mostly emotional with one very short quasi public physical encounter and then he was gone. Moved 11 hrs away. I knew I would never see or hear from him again. I was sad and confused and very addicted to the way he had made me feel. At this time I was thinking I just needed time to get over him and I would go back to "normal." But that was not to be; so at this time last year I was between incidences. Soon to discover "online play" overlapped by a full PA 6 weeks before DDAY in mid May.
I am very thankful to be out of that and where I am now.
In one year I hope to be restored to communion in my church and to feel much more emotionally and spiritually stable and for the strengthening of my marriage to be better than ever. I also hope to be wearing those "one size smaller" jeans again.
One year from now (which will put me close to 3 years post dday)
I want to have finally been able to drop all obsessions over the OW.
I want to have built lasting bridges for better communication with my H.
I want to remember the lessons of the past without the sting.
I want to continue to grow in intimacy with my H, truly making him my BEST friend.
I want to quit my job as a minor, and quit "digging" up the crap from the past to rehash.
I want to hear music and not have a trigger slap me upside the head.
I want to be able to see the events leading up to and surrounding dday as water under the bridge and continue pushing forward.
I want to be able to celebrate my wedding anniversary with pride and not dismay.
And I'd like to be 15 pounds lighter. I have started going to the fitness center for my new year's resolution for better health!
Where do I hope to be a year from now? I hope to be past this. I hope that I can feel safe and secure and be able to stop checking his phone usage to make sure he is not talking to OW. I hope I can be settled and comfortable with his officiating again (unless he quits he is talking about it) I hope to be in a place where I am okay no matter what he is doing or not doing. That's where I want to be,