Rebuilding Marriage After Infidelity Community Group
A community for those who have been through the heartbreak of infidelity and decided to stay with their partner and try to re-build the relationship.
Where were you at one year ago today? -or- Where do you hope to be one year from now?
For me?
One year ago today I was deep in the fog. I had had my first experience with OM #1. Mostly emotional with one very short quasi public physical encounter and then he was gone. Moved 11 hrs away. I knew I would never see or hear from him again. I was sad and confused and very addicted to the way he had made me feel. At this time I was thinking I just needed time to get over him and I would go back to "normal." But that was not to be; so at this time last year I was between incidences. Soon to discover "online play" overlapped by a full PA 6 weeks before DDAY in mid May.
I am very thankful to be out of that and where I am now.
In one year I hope to be restored to communion in my church and to feel much more emotionally and spiritually stable and for the strengthening of my marriage to be better than ever. I also hope to be wearing those "one size smaller" jeans again.
For me?
One year ago today I was deep in the fog. I had had my first experience with OM #1. Mostly emotional with one very short quasi public physical encounter and then he was gone. Moved 11 hrs away. I knew I would never see or hear from him again. I was sad and confused and very addicted to the way he had made me feel. At this time I was thinking I just needed time to get over him and I would go back to "normal." But that was not to be; so at this time last year I was between incidences. Soon to discover "online play" overlapped by a full PA 6 weeks before DDAY in mid May.
I am very thankful to be out of that and where I am now.
In one year I hope to be restored to communion in my church and to feel much more emotionally and spiritually stable and for the strengthening of my marriage to be better than ever. I also hope to be wearing those "one size smaller" jeans again.
2012 finds me in a much better state of mind. I still have some healing to do....but on New Years Eve a close friend was killed in a car accident and that put my own pain into perspective. A cop heading to call for a pursuit had on lights but no siren (at least that is the speculation) and slammed into her car at an intersection. She was killed and her husband, son and friend were all injured. She was 54 years old. So on the days that I want to pull out my little bag of problems and hurts and dig through them, I need to stop and think about her situation. She is dead and her husband is left alone to grieve at a senseless death. While my situation sucks, I am still here.....I am healthy....and I am married to a man who has said over and over again that he made a mistake and who has continued to ask for forgiveness. I am married to a man who has worked so hard to set things right with us. These are the things I need to remind myself of on the days that negative feelings creep in.
The main thing is I am still moving forward.
I was COMPLETELY OBLIVIOUS to the fact that my husband was sleeping with woman after woman and had been for eight YEARS of our 12 year marriage!!
One year ago today I was ten and a half months from dday.
One year ago today I had a husband who was a family man, loved his children, loved me, was a great provider, was my soul mate, was my rock, was the one person I could turn to for anything and wouldn't judge me.
One year ago today I was fat and happy. One year ago today I was "living the dream."