there must be a brand of condoms that would work for your husband. there's so many of them out there. it could be fun trying them all out ;)
lol - and if your husband worries about his allergy issues tell him you hear they're working on a male form of the iud and you hope he will have one inserted as soon as it's available. i bet condoms will sound pretty good to him then.

We used condoms for like the first year after the PE. Ugh, I'm sorry to say we hated it. It made my husband uptight, which made me uptight and I was always worried it was going to break.

I'm 45 and do not plan on having my own children so I considered the Essure sterilization, but it seemed like such a long drawn out process, in my mind. I just wanted to get it all taken care of right away, hence the copper IUD.

I have been putting off getting another IUD. Both my husband and I hate condoms, so we only use them when necessary. I keep very carfeul track of my cycle and we either don't have sex or use a condom when I'm fertile. Even on my "safe" days he still pulls out.
I agree with jasme there are many different types of condoms, you could try the non-latex brands (downside they aren't as effective as the latex ones you usually need to use a spericide along with them.) However, there are some people that are really sensative and can't use any condoms or spermacide. This isn't a preference it is an actual allergy (rashes, itching, pain).

Vasectomy - and it can usually be reversed if you change your mind about kids - or you could have some of hubby's sperm frozen and do the invitro thing if you change your mind about kids. My hubby had a vasectomy and it's a much easier, safer process for a guy than for a woman to be surgically sterilized.

I'm going to dive off the platform here to say something about remaining childless: I have never regretted it, though everyone always told me I would. It has meant a lifetime of freedom, lived on my own terms. I have never once felt like I missed out on anything. There is WAY more to life than making babies and way more to a womans life than being a caretaker to kids. If I ever feel the need to be around kids, there are plenty in the world to choose from.

I am in no way bashing women who have chosen to be mothers - I love mothers, especially my own- I bring this up because the pressure for women to have children is relentless. When people ask me how many kids I have, I tell them "zero by choice" or they assume I was unable to, and somehow less of a woman. I get "why not?" questions from people all the time, as if I must be deranged not to want to experience the joys of parenthood. Or I get looks of pure, raw envy, usually from women who have sacrificed it all in the name of raising children. I hear regrets from women who had babies under pressure or by accident, and have yet to hear regrets from my childless friends.

If you really truly want children, I think you know it in your heart and there is really little decision about it. If you have to draw up a list of pros and cons, that says a lot right there. But I really believe motherhood should be a calling, not an assumed womanly function. If you feel you have other contributions to make in this life, pursue them with all your might.

Well, that's not what you were looking for. But I wanted to toss in my 2 cents on the pros of staying kid-free. And that I'm all for Vasectomy!!!

My husband had a vasectomy ten years ago, and it has been the best thing he ever did!. I was 35 at the time and thought it was a good idea to get off of birth control pills and quite frankly didn't want to go through another pregnancy.

We always said if we wanted more children we would adopt. Giving birth doesn't necessarily make you "more" of a mother or a better mother for that matter. If you and your husband decide you want to be parents there are lots of babies that would love to have you.

I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. Take care.