Pregnancy Support Group
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misspink
Hi my names kayle im 21 and i just found out i am pregnent.
When I was 17 i fell pregenent with my boyfriend of 2 years it was a very upsetting time for me because my boyfriend at the time told me if i didnt abort he would want nothing to do with me and our child. I was living in cornwall at the time and had no family or friends around me. I thought that he was the love of my life and ended up givin in to him and aborting our baby. About a month later we both moved back home with our perants and he split up with me.
After that relationship ended i started a new one with a guy while livin in england age 19 we had sex without contriception for over a year and i never fell pregnant so i thought that i had messed my body up due to the abortion. I knew from square one that i didnt really love him and i guess i was going out with him for security because he was so much of a nice guy i felt like he would never leave me. In the end i knew that i couldnt carry on living a lie and had to finish the relationship. we are still friends and i care about him alot.
In april this year i started going out with my currant boyfriend simon. when we met we had so much in common everything i said he seemed to finnish i never thought that i would ever feel the way i did with him. We both agreed that we are sole mates. i have only been back home about 2 weeks out of the time i have known him and spent all the rest of the time with him.
ON WED 25TH JULY 2007 I found out that i was approx 5 weeks preg. when the nurse told me i couldnt stop smilein years of worryin that i could not have kids was finally over. Then it struck me that i was going to have to tell simon that i am pregnant. when he got home from work i told him as soon as he came in the living room he did not look happy. He said to me that we had only been together for a few weeks and that it was a bad decission to bring a child into the world so soon of knowin each other. I started to cry and told him that i could not go throw another abortion again. simon went quiet and after a few hours acted normal towards me. we went to bed as normal and the next day wen he came home from work said that he had been thinkin about it all day. he said he wasnt ready to have a baby at 28, we had not known each other long enough to know if we wanna be together, he did not want to be a part time dad and he didnt want his perants to only see there granchild every now and then ....he also said that if we had been together for 10 months or longer he would be really happy and doing cart wheels. I couldnt stop cryin cause he kept on shoutin i told him i needed to go home and think about what i want. i phoned my mother and asked her to pick me up. my mum said no matter what happens she will be behind me 100% .
ON monday i went to the docs and spoke to him about everything. it was kinda like talking to a brick wall. i got folic acid given to me off him and decided that i really want to keep this baby. on tues 7th aug i came back to simons house and we havent spoken about the pregnancy what so ever. today the 11th i got a call off my mum saying the midwife needs to make arragments to speak to me. i have been avoiding speaking to simon about my decision and thought i better had say somthing other wise its just going to get worse. he is now out with one of his friends so i tx him to say ...i need to make arragements for a ultrasound are you going to come with me.. he said ....u keepin it en?! i said ....i wanted to tell you but i was frightend about how u were going to react....he said omg! i want you! but cant we sort it and see where we get 1st its called being sensable. I said things are not going to go back the way they were if i did abort cause i would resent the fact you made me do it im trying to be trufull to you simon i want this to work i dont want to pressure you into anything but i need to know if you want me to be down this way with you because i need to sort out the hospital midwife and accomidation...he said i cant haddle this please? i cant look after my self.
I want to know do you ppl think i am being unfair and should abort or do you think i should stick to my guns and have our baby
When I was 17 i fell pregenent with my boyfriend of 2 years it was a very upsetting time for me because my boyfriend at the time told me if i didnt abort he would want nothing to do with me and our child. I was living in cornwall at the time and had no family or friends around me. I thought that he was the love of my life and ended up givin in to him and aborting our baby. About a month later we both moved back home with our perants and he split up with me.
After that relationship ended i started a new one with a guy while livin in england age 19 we had sex without contriception for over a year and i never fell pregnant so i thought that i had messed my body up due to the abortion. I knew from square one that i didnt really love him and i guess i was going out with him for security because he was so much of a nice guy i felt like he would never leave me. In the end i knew that i couldnt carry on living a lie and had to finish the relationship. we are still friends and i care about him alot.
In april this year i started going out with my currant boyfriend simon. when we met we had so much in common everything i said he seemed to finnish i never thought that i would ever feel the way i did with him. We both agreed that we are sole mates. i have only been back home about 2 weeks out of the time i have known him and spent all the rest of the time with him.
ON WED 25TH JULY 2007 I found out that i was approx 5 weeks preg. when the nurse told me i couldnt stop smilein years of worryin that i could not have kids was finally over. Then it struck me that i was going to have to tell simon that i am pregnant. when he got home from work i told him as soon as he came in the living room he did not look happy. He said to me that we had only been together for a few weeks and that it was a bad decission to bring a child into the world so soon of knowin each other. I started to cry and told him that i could not go throw another abortion again. simon went quiet and after a few hours acted normal towards me. we went to bed as normal and the next day wen he came home from work said that he had been thinkin about it all day. he said he wasnt ready to have a baby at 28, we had not known each other long enough to know if we wanna be together, he did not want to be a part time dad and he didnt want his perants to only see there granchild every now and then ....he also said that if we had been together for 10 months or longer he would be really happy and doing cart wheels. I couldnt stop cryin cause he kept on shoutin i told him i needed to go home and think about what i want. i phoned my mother and asked her to pick me up. my mum said no matter what happens she will be behind me 100% .
ON monday i went to the docs and spoke to him about everything. it was kinda like talking to a brick wall. i got folic acid given to me off him and decided that i really want to keep this baby. on tues 7th aug i came back to simons house and we havent spoken about the pregnancy what so ever. today the 11th i got a call off my mum saying the midwife needs to make arragments to speak to me. i have been avoiding speaking to simon about my decision and thought i better had say somthing other wise its just going to get worse. he is now out with one of his friends so i tx him to say ...i need to make arragements for a ultrasound are you going to come with me.. he said ....u keepin it en?! i said ....i wanted to tell you but i was frightend about how u were going to react....he said omg! i want you! but cant we sort it and see where we get 1st its called being sensable. I said things are not going to go back the way they were if i did abort cause i would resent the fact you made me do it im trying to be trufull to you simon i want this to work i dont want to pressure you into anything but i need to know if you want me to be down this way with you because i need to sort out the hospital midwife and accomidation...he said i cant haddle this please? i cant look after my self.
I want to know do you ppl think i am being unfair and should abort or do you think i should stick to my guns and have our baby
keep us posted! i am praying for you.
you definately made the right decision,
Being a single parent *IS* challenging and it *WILL* be a tough road ahead of you but you can do it if you're determined enough. You can also make sure "Simon" has his wages garnished.
Best of luck.
gift.Hand in there and dont let fear get the best of you.
If you have the love and help from your great mum,then you are very lucky.
I had a baby at 16,and she is now 20,and i wouldnt swap her for the world.It wasnt easy and i wish i had waited,but it isnt impossible.
I wish you lots of luck in life,and i am here if you would like to talk about anything.
XOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOXOX
Jody