that is hard to go through i hope your still getting support from some family members because this is the moment when u need them the most but your not alone on here

You did right by telling the truth. If the molester is a member of your family then the breakup of your family is on them, not you. You never asked to be molested.

Are you getting therapy or counseling?

I have therapy every week and it is the most difficult thing because after the trith came out there was 3 deaths in my family all one after the other. And it tore apart my grandparents marriage the most

I'm so sorry. It must be very hard. But keep reminding yourself that you didn't ask for any of this. The person who molested you is the person responsible - not you.

i'm so very sorry for your losses. we will be wanting to comfort you here.

it is good that brought yourself here to a place of support for you. gentle hugs

It's hard not to think it's my fault but sadly that wasn't my only sexual abuse

Huge hug for you sweetie.... You did nothing wrong..... You did what you should have done.... I know it may be hard to see right now with so much chaos going on
The molester is the person who was completely wrong in this ....completely..... I'm glad that you're here and also that you're in therapy..... This is not your fault.... You've been the victim..... Another gentle hug and a blessing.....xo

We all think it's our fault ... but it never is. No child or young person has the power or the wish to make someone molest them.

The sad truth is the more I feel like it's my fault the more I think of the other times I have been abuse.

Please tell yourself very firmly that it was not your fault.

If your grandparents are anything like mine, the cracks in your grandparents' marriage were probably there long before you had anything to do with it, b. Please don't take on too much responsibility for a whole dysfunctional family system, OK?

I tried doing that just to let all my family's problems be resolved in me. Though I was willing to be the family sacrificial lamb, it just doesn't work that way. Not even when we volunteer.

Then working in therapy on it I found out that my family's problems in the area of boundaries go back all the way to the 1860s and the Civil War I kid you not.

This may not have any relevance to you. On the other hand, it might really resonate with you, either now or farther down the line. Much support to you.

I mean i know my grand parents had a rocky marriage but my grandfather was the one that molested me so that completely ended the relationship because he's behind bars. Only cuz he's in jail she decided the marriage was over even when she had the chance to leave him back when he molested my grandma's sister

so many people will ignore or deny it to even themselves. i bet that was truly horrible for her sister to live with, being molested by him and her own sister not leaving him.

it is good you have brought light to this - it is, you needed to do this for yourself - 100% truth. i understand it will take work and support for you to get through this. sometimes it will feel difficult - you can get through difficult - you've done that already. you lived through the abuse. i'm so sorry. i empathise with you. i relate to your pain.

but you didn't do a wrong thing to others here - it needed to be brought to light. it is an ugly and sick and poisonous thing, that most often doesn't have that chance to be completed in this way.

light brings with it an opportunity for healing, at least to wash clean the wounds. what they choose to do with themselves is not up to you. they are supposed to be adults. they were adults before you were born. it is not your job to figure out what they need to do.

you gave them an amazing opportunity - you did this.

you choose what you do with you. you help you now, k? and we are here : ) this is a good choice you made for yourself already, bringing yourself here.

a suggestion?
call the victims assistance phone number on the www.rainn.org website and see what help is available for you. i know there is free counseling with trauma trained counselors./therapists near you.

Thanks so much it really means a lot

You are worth it. you have always been worth it.

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