Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Support Group
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Recently, I've had a difficult time developing trust in my new relationship. There's no doubt that it's a product from previous experiences with men (abuse, sexual assault and cheating). I feel like I've lost my trust in men from the stresses in the past.. Now I can't help but form assumptions in my new relationship; that I might be fooled once again. I have episodes of panick that I can't control when I suspect moments of distrust in this new relationship, and although I try to keep it to myself, my ways of coping are... more harmful than helpful. Any advice or relatable experiences? I want to know if I'll ever be able to release this trauma from the past and start fresh.
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Hello- I am new to the group
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Jay's podcasts are really good. I watch them on YouTube for free. Today, I watched his video about motivation. In fact, I've been watching a few videos on this subject. Jay gave us an assignment to complete the following sentence: I am stuck because? I don't describe myself as stuck, but to finish the sentence, I would say that I am stuck because I am tired. When I have energy, I do...
it really isn't as much about other people as it is about myself. trusting myself matters the most - that's where the fear came into play anyway.
for me, the best way to help myself is learning to trust myself. doing things with me, having a date with me : ) building me. the rest will follow. without me, the rest is going to be a disaster.
I still haven't found a way to a single, justy letting go. I don't believe there is a way to start over with a clean, fresh canvas of Life. My own recovery has looked more like taking the broken pieces and making them beautiful. Whichever way I just ^it^, I still have to wake up each morning the same person I was yesterday. The changes have come in bits and pieces.
Trust remains a toughie for me, as well. Like Lilly, I find it more productive to work on self-trust before I worry about trusting other people. I also find it easier to work on it in bits and pieces. I am not sure I ever will accomplish one big, monolithic Trust. Trusting myself to stay calm during a specific meeting or task is much easier than declaring myself or anyone else Trustworthy In All Things, Past, Present and Future. That tactic has given me unrealistic expectations every time.
You are not alone, AP. Trust is a toughie. Hope you feel safe to work on it here. Welcome to the forum. Gentle support while you find what works for your own, unique case.
Grateful for your responses!