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the associated peer support has changed radically as PTSD has grown into a household acronym. more and more i find myself avoiding the PTSD support groups in favor of the more generalized anxiety support groups. PTSD is an axiety disorder, after all, and the more generalized groups focus on managing symptoms more than the public pity parties and assumptions that other people can know my PTSD triggers better than i can. the TWs are hitting my senses as yet another form of ineffective public censorship. i promise the hollywood censorships do not often guess right on what i need to be protected from.
"i'm sorry" has been a trigger phrase for me since before i had enough psychotherapy under my belt to know what a psych trigger is. as a child prostitute i translated "i'm sorry" as "go away, brat. i ain't got time or interest for you. end of discussion."
as the phrase has reached standard usage in the mainstream PTSD support, i have simply increased social distance while thanking the cosmos that the peer support network is so diverse and vast that there is always someplace to go when the public awareness invades our anonymity. i am not repressing my sorrow nor rejecting the empathy of peers who are struggling with similar sorrows. i just ain't looking for effective support in generalized social platitudes. my symptoms respond well to strictly personal empathy but not so much the generic sympathy. public pity still feels toxic to my senses. i prefer privacy when i am on the pity pot.
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should i treat "i'm sorry" as a strictly personal psych trigger in need of exposure therapy? it does seem quite similar to my responses to the light metaphors which carried my long gone child pornograpy sets into poetry readings, church sermons, etc.
i am sorry. how are you?
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All that to say... i wish I had a solid answer. The sand under my psyche keeps shifting, however, and I'm wondering if I am better off staying away from "support" that's so generic I could get it in a fortune cookie. "Thoughts and prayers" is my toxic phrase. And it's *everywhere*. ....
Puma support from a safe distance.
support appreciated from a safe social distance.
healing hopes for all. no exceptions.
If I've offended you please know it was never my intent Arf....... Triggers really suck.... If I use it again I hope that you know it won't be to hurt you... I have some big memory problems as well ... sigh..... Big hug.... xo
one of the big changes in the ptsd support groups is the shift from "defusing triggers" to being sorry for triggers. i don't expect anyone to change the way they speak to avoid **my** psych triggers. using my light metaphor as an example, nobody ever suggested i ask poets or preacher to give up light metaphors out of respect for **my** child pornography flashbacks. the focus is and remains on defusing the triggers which cause me to get eye aches during the sunday sermon. i hold the eye aches is progress over the hysterical flashback responses that sent me running from entirely too many poetry readings.
ditto for "i'm sorry." the fact that it is a psych trigger for me does not make it a cultural injustice in need of political correction. it is strictly personal.
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thank you for reminding me and now that i am reminded, in german, you feel the sorrow. das tut mir leid. my spanish is far more developed than my german, but i was living in west germany and studying german when i started psychotherapy.
it might be beneficial to do a review on how to say, "i'm sorry" in the different languages of the world.
Przykry mi is translated as "I'm sorry" but it means more... "how distasteful to me [that is]". Very different way of expressing a concept, isn't it?
Safe support as you travel.
translating idioms gets tricky, leo. you really cannot translate the meaning word for word. in my more developed spanish, "lo siento" is the idiomatic translation. the word for word translation is "it i feel." idiomatic modification required if i want my fellow english speakers to understand the translation. "reframing" in motion.
i started with german because it is one of my ancestral languages, polish too, but so many languages and so little time. polski to też dobry język.
no, i haven't studied polish yet, but i adore machine translators.
On a side note, I learned a bit of Espanol in high school. I remember someone making a comment that learning a new language allows you to develop a new sense of self or character/personality.
should i also warn you that at the official level, linguists are frequently suspected of emotional stability? i often don't know or especially care what language i am thinking in. people who interrupt my thoughts in a different language are likely to get seriously skewed answers. how dare you not know what language i was thinking in?
me, unstable? moi mon cheri?
The most widely used word? Proszę! It's hello, please, okay, excuse-me, de nada, darn it, oh well, all in one :-) It's a fun word. Much mileage from it.
Powodzenia! Czesc!