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Told mum tw

lovelilbeany
lovelilbeany

i told my mother today through whatsapp that i self harmed. Her first response was where. She asked this to make sure it wasnt visable to the outside world. Tough shit mum its across my knuckle. 


She thinks i havent self harmed in over 6 years. I told her it was just a one off. I wont be so stupid to do it in a visable plave next time i just dodnt want to destroy my tattoos. 

Kate1976
Kate1976
I am very inspired by your honesty and bravery with your mum. Sending you gentle hugs.
Nooy
Nooy
Just want to give you a big hug of support. Both for your bravery in telling her, but also to console you for the, pardon my French, shit response from her.

A knee-jerk response should be "Are you all right?" Whether or not the damn neighbours, or whomever, would see shouldn't be the primary concern. I'm sorry that the topic didn't get the compassion you deserve.

Hope the visit will be decent. Hugs of support.
donnawanda
donnawanda
It was brave of you to tell your mum and good for you for not messing up your tattoo! I'm proud of you! I totally agree with the two comments above!
BlueSky
BlueSky
1st.... that's really brave of you. My mom knows nothing about my traumas, so I commend you. 2nd... your mom's response was insensitive and left me scratching my head. I would have thought that she'd be more worried about your health and safety, instead of looks. How vane.
nancy6464
nancy6464
Oh Sarah, so glad you decided on what action to take about it and went bravely to doing it. I'm only focusing on your actions cause your mum makes me shake my head.

triple hugs and love~
Nooy
Nooy
I would like to apologize if I came off too angry and harsh towards your mother. It inflamed me because it reminds me strongly of things my mother has said.

But this is about your mother, not mine, and I could have worded my comment better. So, please, if you thought my word choice inappropriate, that was more me also projecting my issues onto your mother while trying to support you.

Hope you're well!
lovelilbeany
lovelilbeany
Thanks for ur support and comments everyone.
Its ok nooy i wasnt upset by what u said.
For once is see how she truly can be
LukasAnders
LukasAnders
Your mum isn't well connected with you. Sorry. You're brave.
kataroundtheworld
kataroundtheworld
Hey dear, that is great step to reach out and tell your mum. I'm sorry her response wasn't quite as compassionate as prob you needed to hear.
But also, have you been talking or seeing a counselor about what's going on?
I'm wondering if things have been more difficult lately that you've gone back to self-harming.. If so, I hope you have someone else besides your mum to talk to! You and your body are loved and precious and the wounds are deeper than you think (in your heart)
If you're interested, heres some articles and resources that might help https://bit.ly/2xonvIF
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