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told abusers wife

cjpfaz
cjpfaz
Message my brother's wife to give my brother a message the end result I finally just told to her directly that that I was abuse by six people including my father and a relative. She was mean. So I said if you want to know my brother is on that list. At the beginning of the conversion I had said if the abusers that were still alive did not give me answers I would take them to court. In one last atempt to raddle brother's cage I said I am done talking and see u in court. Felt good about father, but did not think Jeff's response would bothet me, but it did and my brother"ss wife a little. I do not plan to take them coury or talk to them again.
LeoX3
LeoX3
Sounds rough. Hope you are giving yourself some extra self-care.

Maybe it's always different with sibs than parents. I could grasp and then let go of the dad stuff easier than my sis stuff---

Gentle healing wishes,
Leo
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
I have a sister who admits to all the abuse we suffered as kids, but has told me privately point blank she'll never tell the truth or support my doing so publicly. My speaking out about my family's abuse has cut me off from them, so I am not in the family will to inherit anything any more. She told me directly she is participating in my parents' lies and cover up so she will get her inheritance still and my inheritance, too.

It's about $200,000 total, so that's her price.

People make their choices. I'm glad she was honest enough to let me know why she takes their side and stabs me in the back so much. That's her price. I appreciate the fact that she was good enough to say so to me directly. It let me know not to waste my breath trying to convince her to tell the truth. She has other financial interests at stake, and that's her right.

I can't imagine living like that, but that's her life. We each do what we believe we have to do. For me to live with myself and know the truth is a greater reward than any amount of money. But not everyone is like that..
arfie
arfie
Hard stuff, cj. I am an incest survivor with 10 siblings. All eleven of us have had radically different reactions to it. Sometimes I even feel fortunate that there is no financial wealth in our inheritance. It is already too complicated without adding money fights. Near as I can tell, it's hard, whichever way you choose to go with it. Whether we choose to stuff it and maintain the secretive status quo, publicize it on afternoon talk shows, etc., or go for something between the extremes, it remains hard stuff. I reckon some things are simply not meant to be easy.

I second the hope that you are giving yourself extra self-care. Extra self TLC is the best medicine I have found for helping me deal with the hard stuff.

Healing happens. Hope it happens to you.
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