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earthling1
earthling1

I am so confused, I don't know where to turn. I've been living in the house where my ex-boyfriend abused me for 7 years. Not going into details. I have been alone there for a few years and every night is a horror. I don't pay for the apartment, my family does. My current boyfriend, whom I met 8 months ago, has an apartment he said he'd like me to move into, but not until May when my current lease is finally up (I kept renewing before until I realized I have ptsd and was formally diagnosed!). I don't want to wait until May. But he says he's never lived with a girl before and needs some time to prepare. He also read literature advising against moving in with sig other until after a year. I don't want to put him in the position of save me from my PTSD. He thought i should find yet ANOTHER place for a year. Why does this upset me , when I know he is just setting boundries, something he's working on in his own therapy? How do i not push him away but last for the next 7 months?

rcurtis1010
rcurtis1010
Could you possibly start going to some PTSD support groups?? So you can deal with everything youre going through? Moving in with him will just suppress the emotion, not deal with it. Think of it this way. You have 7 whole months to make yourself a healthier and happier person and your relationship will be stronger in the long run <3 hope this helped
arfie
arfie
Greetings Earthling. Welcome to DS.

That is allot to sort. The fact that you are upset about it makes me think you are paying attention. Easy does it. Moving, etc., are big, life-changing events. They tend to go better in small steps with the support of a strong network.

Welcome aboard. Hope you find this to be a good node in that network.
Kate1976
Kate1976
Welcome Earthling, I don’t have a ton of advice but am glad you are reaching out to this support group. I am in a similar situation. I ended up moving back into the house after my abusive ex-husband moved hours away. Did it for the girls. It was very difficult, but I found getting remnants of him out of the house and redecorating a bit has helped. I also did a sage smoke cleansing of some of the areas that held the worst memories. This helped too. Triggers can be random, so maybe this is a good opportunity to work on managing triggers before the move? Either way supportive hugs!
earthling1
earthling1
Thank you so much, everyone....i will redecorate, use sage, and spend the next several months going to ptsd groups. thank you all so much
Hopealways
Hopealways
Hi Earthling1,
I have been using sage as well and recorating is a great idea. I know our situations are different. I have been having a hard time finally getting rid of boxes of my exes belongings he chose not to get. I live in the same apartment with my current s.o as I did my verbally abusive ex fiance. I have told my new s.o that I want to move. I agree it's a lot of changes. Take it step by step. You are not alone and have a lot of support here. Sending positive vibes. Many blessings!
StrengthofMind
StrengthofMind
If he keeps pushing you away and making excuses why you can't come then that is not a good place for you to even consider being. He obviously has reservations and you don't need that. Do some redecorating and make your space comfortable and nobody elses space but yours. I.E. get comfortable in you own skin. It's the best place you can be. Nobody to answer to you but you. Invite only those that can be accepting and supportive of you. Come here for support as you need it. Stay strong even if youfeel like a kitten. (((hugs))). Good luck.
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