I think that if your friend who likes to express anger is a good friend he/she should try to bring it down.

I'm very angry person myself but i try not to express it around the one friend i have.
My ex-boyfriend had a real prob with road rage while driving and it was so uncomfortable to drive with him..............I finally decided to not put myself in that situation since i told him many times but he continued to do it.

Some people get very scary when they are angry.And they should make an effort not to scare the people around them did not cause the anger...

I got a lot of anger myself and do try very hard to not display it around those who did not cause it.

I am convinced I can feel anger in a room after the combatants have cleared out. I have tested the sensation several times and been right every time.

Yes, I am like this.

Equally, it is not reasonable to expect the world to turn into a Disney Cartoon just to protect my delicate senses. Anger is part of the human condition and I have to stretch my comfort zone if I want to be part of the full human experience.

I wonder if stretching your own comfort zone is why you are attracted to this particular friend. Opposites frequently do have much to teach one another.

Eep. I'm also really sensitive to people's anger, and have problems telling people when I'm upset because I may go a little overboard. I end up keeping it to myself to spare someone's feelings for fear that I may not be thinking about the situation rationally. Because of the whole abuse thing, I worry that my reactions are not correct. Of course, every time I look back at one of these situations, I realize that what I had in mind was totally called for. Being overly cautious about hurting other people is a great way to get run over yourself.

I am hyper-sensitive to all things. Anger is only one of them. I was actually recently in a PHP (partial hospitalization program) where we did a group on this and we did an exercise (won't go into it) but it was to see how observant we are, and how much attention we pay. Although it was a group activity, the moderating therapist was stunned by how much detail I knew about the person - down to their second pair of earrings.

I am hyper-aware of the slightest switch in a tone of voice or facial expression. I am constantly aware of peoples' energy and disposition and I change accordingly, either shutting down, getting out, running away or acting appropriate to the situation.

Anger makes me VERY uncomfortable - and I don't think there's a reason to be surprised by that, given my upbringing.

thanks for your replies. I guess I get down on myself, for being so afraid of anger. But, if I were being kind to myself, I'd see it as an after effect of trauma. The drug and alcohol rehab. Plus, my earliest memory is of shattering abuse followed by an angry, blaming man standing over me. I was granted this memory while the psychiatrist was doing EMDR. From it, I landed in acute admissions at the local psych hospital, being pumped full of anti psychotics. Just been feeling vulnerable lately. Nice to know i'm not the only one!