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PTSD: Sexual Assault Warning

cloudiness
cloudiness

I got tested recently and naturally I was to answer a lot of questions about my sex life. When I revealed that I was actually a virgin the doc asked why I’m even getting tested at all. 


So I told them “I was sexually assaulted in the past.” 


It was the first time from my mouth I admitted to what happened to me as a kid. And it hurt. It hurt a lot. After my testing I spent the next half an hour walking aimlessly sobbing my eyes out. 


The thing is I repressed and dissociated heavily from those memories. I was assaulted multiple times by different guys. I dismissed it as harassment and teasing. But it was really assault, my body was violated. 


I know I still have a life ahead of me but it’s hard living with the trauma. I can’t focus on work, I struggle with other men, I can’t really live without dealing with this. Without healing. 


It’s been 6 years since my assault almost 7. And it’s not a great time to be a sexual assault survivor but I’d argue it never really was. And I think what I’m really afraid of is hearing degrading things like, “Oh you deserve it.”, “What were you wearing?”, “You just want attention.”


But I’m not alone of course. Other survivors have let the world know that it’s never the victim’s fault. And I hope maybe I can still follow my dreams. 

SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Cloudiness, the mind can block things out, but at some point they do bubble to the surface. You are correct, it was not harassment or teasing, it was sexual assault on a child. Only ignorant people would ask such questions of pre teen assaults. Now that the memories and feelings are surfacing, you will work to accept that it was not your fault. Things were done to you by predators. Yes, you will follow your dreams. Yes you will learn to be comfortable with men who are worthy of your affection. Yes, you will heal. We shall support you through the ups and downs of recovering from all that happened. Comforting hugs.
Doo.
Doo.
I cannot say it any better than Simpsons here but I wanted to show my support. Hopefully you are seeing a therapist and he/she can also support you and reassure you.
Saphiersky
Saphiersky
All I can say is that as a fellow survivor of assault and rape, I feel you. And I just want to give you the biggest hug.

This sounds cliche, but it really does get better with time. I would really suggest going to a professional. Even just one session of therapy gave me a lot of relief. I completely understand if you either aren’t able to, or you don’t want to. It took me YEARS to agree to seeing a therapist.

All of this is to say that the world might feel dark, but there is light at the end of this tunnel. From one stranger to another, I hope that you start feeling some form of relief soon. This probably didn’t help at all, but please know that you have my full support.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
As another fellow survivor of sexual assault, I feel you, too. It took me years, but I went to a professional and when I found the right one, it really helped.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I have been assaulted as well and it changes who we are..... This is a good place though with some wonderful people

I'm glad that you're here..... Gentle hug.....xo
cloudiness
cloudiness
The support here is overwhelmingly sweet. I have therapy tomorrow and I’m keeping an open mind. But I wanted to thank everyone for the understanding and positive words <3
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Sending you support today for that therapy session you're having, cloudiness.
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