Don't even worry about it. I guarantee your therapist is not having a temper tantrum because you missed an appointment, nor has he written you off as a loser or an incompetent. These things happen to the best of us.

Having said that, I do totally understand your feelings! When it's yourself (myself) we lose all perspective and revert to the bullied child we were. Well, guess what - we are allowed to goof up from time to time - same as everyone else in the world! You're a good woman and a good patient and a reliable person and it's fine that you made a mistake.

I'm surprised I ever make it to any appointment, on the right date OR at the right time.

I'm sorry.

The therapist should truly understand. It's kind of the nature of the business, sometimes.

You'll get to the next one on schedule. Don't beat yourself up over this, huh ? Haven't others/hasn't life beaten each of us up enough ??

I wish you peace, health, and strength.

Ugh...I am sitting here with my phone on my lap. I'm like a 15 year old waiting on a call. Next appointment isn't for 10 days :-(

I should ask him to write the appointments down for me. I put them in my planner ( I have to schedule around work stuff) but maybe I need the card too.

My phone is probably 4 years old...I can't do anything besides talk and text with it. Kinda embarrassing when everyone whips out their iphones and androids. I use a big zippered and covered planner too. I need to see my month at a glance so I can be overwhelmed all at once.

In my personal madness, it be the little things I obsess over the most. My favorite theory is that it is how I distract myself from what really matters and/or the stuff I REALLY need to work on. If I can beat myself up over a minor error in an area where I am mostly doing well, I can avoid the real problems all together.

Hope the sharing has already helped you get back on track.

Keep on the sunny side.

I posted a response to you , Arfie. Now I wonder where I put it.....

Don't sweat it another second. We all make those mistakes and think it's the end of the world, and then it turns out the sunr rises anyway and here we still all are.... I got that way over overcooking something today and was in tears for ten minutes over it. Big hugs....

I always get worked up over mistakes. I will be up half the night worrying about something I did wrong.

Please don't be hard on yourself! This happens to alll ppl!!!

Therapy appointments for you are stressful. You forget them because of that, methinks?

I guess they are stressful but I look forward to them. I am still in the bittersweet throes of transference. He still hasn't called back. I shall pout and continue distracting myself on you tube.

Ugh...I can't have 13 replies so I will reply to myself. Ugh....I swore he said the 2nd!

Accidents happen, mistakes are made. Heck, I keep track of 85 students at a time at my college, and I've got PTSD--oh, wait, and so do you! Let yourself off the hook about whether it bugs him. He's a pro, he'll handle it.

I don't think it's being addicted to therapy, though, to miss the support in your routine. Let us know how we can fill in with peer support to tide you over, if we can.

Personally, I rely on my doctor and my therapist to be professional and professionalism in my opinion has to do with scheduling appointments and paying for services. It's been hard for me to hold my doctor and therapist to a "professional standard" because the nature of the work they do is talking, listening, and providing insight. Makes it awkward (at least in my opinion) to use the word "professional" to describe my relationship to them. The word professional creates some kind of emotional distance or disconnect between my therapist and I.

Over time I learned to consolidate professionalism into the two things I mentioned...scheduling and payment. And when I have missed appointments in the past, I talked to my therapist about how that made me feel during my next session. Bottom line, professionalism in psychotherapy means being helpful and encouraging to patients at all times. I think this is a great opportunity for you to see your therapist being responsible, professional, and ethical.

You're right, they might be mad at you. But that is unprofessional and harmful to you. My advice, talk to the therapist about it. I sometimes write my therapist a letter if I'm having a lot of racing thoughts or worries. It helps me focus and let them know what I want to talk about in my next session.

Well said, Alan. Scheduling and payment are part of the therapy, too.