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new year

imexhausted
imexhausted

this year hasn't been too bad. i have finally started hanging out w/friends again, i am doing well at work, and i am succeeding in school. on new years eve, i "put out into the universe", i am ready for a boyfriend and to date. then, who do i see on facebook, but an ex. he has a history of alcohol abuse, manic depression, and is completely emtionally unavailable. i am searching for the  answer as to why the universe put him back in my life. 


with PTSD, i still get those aweful flashbacks of situations that made me uncomfortable. i literally cringe when i get these flashbacks.  i thought i was supposed to forgive the people i had these interactions with. but am i supposed to be forgiving myself? allowing myself to make mistakes? god for bid i don't do everything perfectly !!!!! 


are these flashbacks about me or the person i had the interaction with? 

nancy6464
nancy6464
I am still making my way with my own PTSD so I don't have much incite to offer. but i do have support and hugs for you while you figure it out
arfie
arfie
The theory which popped into my just-a-patient brain on why a reminder of your ex might be an answer to your prayer is that you need to review the dynamics of past relationships in order to avoid repeating the fatal flaws in future relationship. Just a theory. . . You are the one with all the inside data.

Hanging out with friends and doing well at work and school is quite allot of progress to build on. May the growth continue.

@Nancy.
Ya got me wondering if those with the newest insight are the most natural inciters.
imexhausted
imexhausted
@simpsonsok......you bring up a great point that the flashbacks are about the situations. i'm guessing it's what did I learn from the situation? (like arfie points out). this helps me realize I still have more work to do.....ty :)
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Hey, imex, I've got nothing to add to the good advice others have already given here. I'm just glad you're in a position where the year hasn't been too bad and your can ponder the possibilities. Hope the new year's even better to you.
imexhausted
imexhausted
@mujicaptsd.....thank you for the support. sometimes that's just enough :)
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