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My mom's in hospice

Rizen
Rizen

About 5 years ago she was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer that had metastasized into her bone marrow. I've been taking care of her but it's gotten progressively worse. Now her liver is failing. Her skin is yellow, so are her eyes. We don't know how long she has left but it's not long. The last 3 months she's been in and out of hospitals and rehabilitation centers. She had her gal bladder removed. Now they moved her home and put her on hospice care. Taking care of my mom while she slowly dies is the hardest thing I've ever had to do. Hopefully she'll be alive tomorrow so we can get me appointed her power of attorney.

Sorry I don't post very much. I'm an empath so it's hard plus I'm always under a lot of stress. I got complex PTSD from taking care of my grandpa who had parkensin's disease before he died, then my uncle died of seizures, then my other uncle got cancer and me and my mom were taking care of my grandma who had lewy body disease, then my mom developed a life threatening infection from a bed sore and I saved her life by taking her to the hospital, so I had to take care of my grandma on my own, then my uncle died of cancer, then my grandma died, then my mom got cancer and now she's dying.

Beryl367
Beryl367
So sorry you're going through this. Sending thoughts of support and some prayers for you and your mom.
AgentSmith
AgentSmith
I'm so sorry you're going through this. I just went through this with my grandfather who was in home hospice and I was his primary caretaker. Prior to that, my other grandfather died, and my dog died very suddenly and unexpectedly. All within 5 months. I only have my grandma left and I'm her primary caretaker.

Doing the home hospice is the hardest thing imaginable. I'm so sorry you've suffered so much loss. Sending you hugs and a friend request.
Community LeaderLeo
Leo
Here for you. In the early 1990s, my grandpa died, and by mid-1994, I had lost 23 family members. Just in three years. I understand. The mind whirls and the heart aches and there's no time to grieve properly and it's awful.

Gentle puma power to you.
lilmissy7
lilmissy7
(((((Rizen))))))))
I’m so sorry, I will be thinking of you
Sending support, strength & many prayers
Gentlest of gentlest hugs <3
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
Huge hug Rizen.... I am so very sorry for all that you're going through... I remember these days only too well and they were the hardest days I've ever been through

You are and have been an amazing blessing for your mom..... Another huge hug and a blessing.... xo
Full_of_hope
Full_of_hope
Being a full-time caretaker can be exhausting. I'm sorry you are experiencing this over and over. Your family is blessed to have you. Sending you a shoulder to rest your weary head on.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
rizen, you sure have taken care of a lot of dying loved ones in your time. So sorry now it's your mom . I get how you say it's the hardest ever yet. I cared for my mom for three years when she had breast cancer. It's tough. Sending you all of my support today.
JazzyLady
JazzyLady
Sorry, for your pain and loss. It takes a strong person to care for the sick and dying. Sending you supportive and gentle hugs.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Sending you support again for another day today, rizen.
rose07042k
rose07042k
Rizen, sending support and prayers
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Sending you support for your taking care of your mom again today, RIzen. Thinking of you, and best to your mom, hoping that her pain subsides and she can get some rest.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Again for today, Rizen, here's some support headed your way. Thinking of you and your mom every day now.
Community LeaderSunCloudJD
SunCloudJD
I am sending a big hug of care and support sweetie.... xo
Rizen
Rizen
Thank you all so much for the support. I've been staying at my mom's apartment so I didn't have a chance to answer until now.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
I imagined that's where you were, Rizen, so no sweat if you couldn't answer from there every day. We're here for you every day. Sending you today's daily strength to you and your mom both, my friend.
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