i'm so sorry,arfie....((( hugs ))) and prayers for you....

I'm sorry Arfie. I hope the tears can be some sort of a release of some kind. I pray everything works out for everyone involved.
Gentlest of hugs <3

And one more extra hug <3

oh, (((Arf))) i'm so sorry, this must be very painful

It's possible that they're just not up to the task.

***My former neighbor's Judy had a brother with severe seizure issues. Most people with seizures are fine, he wasn't. Nonetheless when he grew up he could live on his own, with a caseworker and a simple job with the Salvation Army.

So he found a girlfriend, and she too had cognitive issues....I think she was mentally retarded, although again, she could live on her own, with her own caseworker

So the two of them decided that it was their "right" or something to have kids. Two perfectly normal, beautiful kids...that they didn't feed right, provide any sort of stimulation for, or keep out of the seizure medication, lead paint chips. It was a mess even though caseworkers were involved throughout the whole thing.

The kids are now in my former neighbor's custody and doing great. Her brother and his girlfriend are actually doing better too without the stress of trying to care for two children.***

I know this all hurts. But it is possible that there may be a brighter future ahead.

In any case, big, big, big hugs. If I could make it better for all of them I would.

Patti

I would be crying too, arfie. For all involved, the little ones 3 and 1, my son, their mom, even myself. I can't even imagine how you must feel. Much support to you now, my friend.

I'm thinking of you. The guilt is not yours to bear. Hoping they are healing tears. Look after you (((hugs))).

Thanks guys. I sure am glad the volunteer job is going today. I'd probably have my heart roasted and ready for lunch if I tried to spend today alone.

Small steps, big faith and lots of prayer. . .

Crying can be so therapeutic! When we allow ourselves to feel, really feel, we often cry because there is pain, sorrow, and a deep sense of loss "stuffed" inside of us. After crying, often there is a relief, because we have given ourselves the freedom to feel. Not a freedom to act on our feelings in a bad way, but just to recognize our feelings. Keep crying, dear one. It's often the first step in moving forward.

Are you seeing a counselor? Often, counseling helps because it is a safer place to vent our feelings, cry, and get a different perspective. Christian counseling has really helped me. Praying for you today.