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Angel2979
Angel2979

Hello everyone, 


I'm new at this. I was in a car accident over a year ago and it was pretty traumatic. I ended up losing everything and being homeless. My spouse was with me throughout all of this. I have strong suspicions on her cheating on me and am trying desperately to gather evidence. When she went to jail, I found fb messages to her ex and girls. I confronted her and forgave her for the millionth time. She's back at it. I see the change of routine and pattern and am getting so tired of this. I can't eat, sleep or concentrate. She keeps telling me that something is wrong with me and she's not doing anything. I would leave but I have no place to go. I don't even have e a car or job. I hate what I've become and what my life has become. I don't know what to do. I'm constantly in the state of anxiety. I think about this 24/7 and don't feel like I'm getting anywhere with her. I don't even want to have sex and that has been a big part of this relationship. I don't know how to get her to back off either. I've tried numerous times to break up with her ND she makes me feel horrible, like I'm the worst person ever. I'm disgusted with myself because I'm a strong person. I would love some advice l,  support or anything else. Thank you! 

arfie
arfie
Hi, Angel. Welcome to the forum. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here.

I am no expert, but I do believe that strong people get wounded, too, and that their wounds are not even a sign of weakness. In the case of the emotional wounds which set the stage for PTSD, symptoms like avoidance, hyper-vigilance, trust issues and scapegoating are quite common, even among the strongest of us.

Your wife really might be as dishonorable as you say, but. . . She's not here and I am just wondering. . . How are you? How is your recovery from the accident and homelessness going?
Zoe
Zoe
To get better you need somebody supportive in your life. Do you have friends or family? It doesn't sound like she has much vested in your relationship. Talk to your Dr., be honest and ask for help. They usually have connections to housing assistance, counseling etc.. It's not going to get better till you decide to make it better. These days wives have to pay alimony too. It's no longer a one way street. Keep posting here. There's a very strong set of supportive people here. Lots of strength and hugs.
Angel2979
Angel2979
Thank you for all your kind words and support. I don't have any friends and my relationship with my family is quite strained. I feel extremely self conscious, unappreciated and devalued. I put my all in this relationship and now I have next to nothing. I feel so lost and lonely. I know my partner is cheating but have no proof. She discovered that I was researching how to leave a narcissist and became physically abusive. I never dealt with that with her. I'm starting to question get more and I think it's starting to make her angry. I'm afraid to leave because of her and I have nowhere else to go.
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