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Toughassteele
Toughassteele

Its not a good start today.  But sure what triggered it but I meeting my children bad. I haven't sewn them since June and it killing me.  My ex husband and his girlfriend are keeping them from me.  They broke the parenting plan and we now I'm going to court to fight for them.  But it was hard because my kids are my life and that's the only reason he is keeping them.  I'm doing in side it is breaking me.  Lost today I'm going to spend time with my mom today.  Which never happens but she is missing me because I stay with my grandparents and don't see her much. But I can't stop crying over my babies. My oldest boy  is 5 and I have twins boy and girl that are 3. God please let me get through this and keep my strong I feel like I'm getting weaker.  The pain is taking over me. 

patti22
patti22
What state are you in?

My state would throw me in jail if I tried to keep my kids from their father...custody agreement or no custody agreement (and per advice of my lawyer...for which I was opposed at the time and am now VERY grateful...I've never had a custody agreement.)
patti22
patti22
And my total sympathies. I miss my kids like crazy when I don't see them every few days at least.
Toughassteele
Toughassteele
I'm in Washington yes its killing me
SimpsonsOK
SimpsonsOK
Steele, that is what the family courts are there for. They understand that children need to know both parents. I have seen the courts switch the custodian when a parent has been kept from the children. Hopeful hugs that you will see them soon and much more regularly.
arfie
arfie
Rocking you gently and crying with you, Toughass. My heart is breaking at the very thought.

Steadying support while you find a way to right this wrong.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
Steele, I had an ugly court battle in my second divorce. Winning to gloat wasn't the point of it, though, it was to establish boundaries I could live with after the marriage was over. Given how boundaries had been a problem in our marriage that led to its failure, it was time to get outside help from the court to get that fixed for post-marriage.

It's a hard and emotional thing to take family issues to court. The law's most likely on your side, though, as it was for me, and it's not just for revenge, it's for building up healthy boundaries when families break down and that's a good thing.
crybaby
crybaby
i have been through the court arena as my ex was taken to court by the police for sexually abusing our daughter....it was hell, but at least my daughter has always been with me....I would die without her and my heart is with you all the way xxxxxxxxxxx
Toughassteele
Toughassteele
Thank you and my hearts with u
Kate1976
Kate1976
Steele, big hugs!! Not the same but I can relate. My ex kept my daughters from me on their birthdays and mother’s day during the divorce. They stay with him every July. This year they spend Thanksgiving and most of winter break. I understand your sadness, but I am counting on your babies loving you nonstop when you have them after the court fixes the nonsense. One thing that did help was spending time apart putting up pictures of my girls. I do that whenever they are gone for more than a few days. For now big hug from me!
Toughassteele
Toughassteele
Thank you
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