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Fallen1991
Fallen1991
I have night terrors I guess you could say. I'm 20. They went away for a few years, and then came back after a pretty significant trigger earlier this year... Well, that was in February. My husband (the first person I ever *really* talked to about my abuse) left for basic military training in June. We haven't lived together since, but I'm still getting the night terrors/flashbacks and we're going to be living together again in less than a month. I was hoping to have my problems under control by then. He and I talked about going to get professional help if I was still freaking out all the time... Now I'm not sure I want to see a psychologist or psychiatrist.

My mom was a drug addict, suicidal and really just a shitty mom growing up... She was in and out of hospitals for attempted suicide. And the drugs they put her on didn't help. I guess mostly I'm just paranoid that I'm going to turn out like her.
arfie
arfie
A dream journal and dream talismans are my best friends during my nightmare phases. When I can relax (ha ha) far enough to gain a little objectivity, my nightmares can even help me gain perspective on my inner conflicts.

Hugs and hopes. I know it is hard.
Fallen1991
Fallen1991
Heard of a dream journal... Not of a dream talisman. But if it works, it's worth a shot, right? Thanks!
deleted_user
deleted_user
My understanding is that is what the "dream catcher" was traditionally created to do. You put it above the head of the bead and it acts like a filter for your dreams blocking out the negative ones while collecting and saving your positive dreams for you.

I can imagine just looking at it and remembering its purpose from time to time would imprint on your subconscious. Doubt it could hurt anyways.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think that you can talk to someone without going on meds or in the hospital or anything. Sometimes just talking about stuff helps. I had a therapist when I was in college and I saw her at the college. One time I heard her tell someone that missed their appt. that she'd left their meds for them. I immediately concluded that she had everyone on meds and when she wanted me to take them I was adament I wouldn't take them. I went home over the summer and saw a psychiatrist I'd seen for therapy as a teen. I had seen her for a couple of years I think before I went to college and I trusted her a lot. When she suggested meds, I was much more open to the idea. It sounds like it might be worth finding someone you can trust. Your mom had her issues and you have yours. You don't have to be her. And looking for help is sometimes the healthiest thing you can do for yourself. If it is going to be something that might come between you and your husband, it may definitely be something you want to consider seeing someone to talk about the night terrors.
TwilightStar
TwilightStar
What is making you hesitate seeing a professional?

I know for myself it is the only thing standing between me and ending up like my abuser who happens to also be my mother as well.

Im about your age and Ive had lots of trouble sleeping when I was younger. Keeping a dream journal as was suggested is a good idea. It will make it easier to analyze what you are experiencing.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You Are Not Your Mom. You never were and never will be.

Am saying this because I was raised by a mentally ill mom. She refused all therapy her entire life, and progressively became worse. My biggest fear used to be I would not just take after her, but end up like her. Now have realized it just won't happen. I have my own vulnerabilities but an entirely different spirit.

Mental health care did not create your mom's illness. Seeing a non-medical therapist can help you gain insight. You will still be in control of your recovery.

I wish you the best.
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