So glad you had fun with your friends hunting, Mack. Same thing happened with me last time I went deer hunting, which for me was years ago. Didn't get a deer, but had a good time with friends I still remember.

At one of the churches where I serve part time weekends there's a woman who has been her mom's primary health care giver for years. She's become exhausted by the stress of it all, so I've seen what you're talking about. She's not a spouse in the relationship, she's a daughter, but I've seen that no matter whether spouse or daughter as a loved one caregiver getting tired the stress is compounded by guilt over it, too.

There's a Widows and Widowers group here at Daily Strength. Maybe there ought to be a loved ones caregivers support group too, you know?

Yes I think there should be something available. It's she's sucking the life out of me.

Or is there a senior center to socialize, shoot a game of pool or checkers or cards, just an hour or so to yourself if possible. As a caregiver to son I do realize that respite time to ourselves is an important part of being well as a caregiver. Pushing till we break doesn’t help anyone especially you. That’s why we call it hunting and not just killing, it’s that ancient feeling of being hunter gatherers as our existence. I did see a beautiful doe being chased by a young spike even though I skipped hunting this season these old eyes took a bit of joy in watching the chase. Recalling younger days of chasing them until they are winded and stop so I can catch up as a hunter is supposed to do. Thanks for sharing and taking me back a few years.

Professional caregivers get, need and have a right to time off as part of their employment package. I am mystified as to how volunteer caregivers can think they deserve/need any less. What are you waiting for, Mack?

I am neither hunter nor fisher, but I seldom pass on hunting and fishing trips. They go my kind of places. Perhaps your gratification from the outing can offer clues to what to do with your much needed time off?

Continued support, whichever way you take it, Mack.

agree with Arfie....my senior center offers a multitude of activities and transportation. Formerly employed as an in home care giver "for respite" for home bound client caregivers. Best to you

I'm 57 years old. Lol. I'm taking some time for me today. I feel like I could jump out of my skin. I think she is understanding (at least somewhat )today. I was honest with her about waking up several times last night. Thanks everyone

There is a Caregivers Support group but it isn't active now unfortunately.... You could reach out for support from caregivers though

I was one for years and I know how hard it is

I'm in Canada so I'm not sure what your situation is where you are..... Are you entitled to respite care??.... If you're not sure I would talk with your wife's physician or your family doctor and ask to be referred to a social worker.... I used to work in Community Health here and there is often a lot available that people aren't aware of..... Gentle hug.... xo

Caregivers board..... It's not really busy but it might be a good place to reach out to understanding friends

https://www.dailystrength.org/group/caregivers