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Had a panic attack scouting retirement site
I thought I posted this earlier, but even after logging off and logging back on, I didn't see the post show up on the board. So I'm having another go, and forgive me if it turns out that it double-posts. Such is the technical status of the new DS site.
I live alone, so I don't have anyone to run my scouting results by and I hope it's ok to run them by you here.
I took a ride around this city I'm visiting of San Cristobal de las Casas, Chiapas, Mexico today with an eye not as a tourist, but as a potential retiree here. With my kidney disease added to my PTSD I don't think I have more than 2-3 more years of full time work in the US left in me health-wise. I think I'll do well to make it that far, so I need to get real about retiring. I can't afford to take early retirement and its cut in Social Security payments and pay my way to live retired alone in the US, so this is my option.
I saw today that this city's got a population of about 200,000, so it would have all of the conveniences I'd need. It's a lovely colonial town, although I did spy a Subway sandwich restaurant, in case I miss a sub sandwich USA-style. I also found that the modest hotel I'm staying in has cable with US tv channels, some in English, CNN in English, and even a channel that shows US sports like NBA and NFL games, for when I get homesick for US life.
I know myself well enough to know that I would get homesick, too, no matter how cheap or great retirement was here, so I'm glad I'd have US tv shows and sports here. I've seen lots of North American and European tourists walking around town every day, so it looks like I'd have people to speak English to when homesickness got to me.
Another thing I confirmed, and that is that the cost of living is indeed less than 50% of where I live in the USA, so the financial advantages of retiring here are real. A furnished 1 br apartment in a decent part of town goes for US$350 a month with all utilities and wifi included. An occasional home cleaning person is also affordable, something that is totally not affordable for me in the US. With my kidney disease, down the line in retirement I might need that sort of help.
I've gone to the supermarket 4 different times now, and groceries are cheap, as is food in general. I have had several sit-down non-gourmet Mexican style meals in downtown restaurants for US$5, tip included, and a fancy dinner once for US$14, tip also included. Cabs go for US$3-4 instead of the US$12 I'm used to paying to get around my hometown in the US. ALso unlike my US hometown, neither air conditioning nor central heat are needed here because the city is up in the mountains with a temperature around 75 degrees all year.
With my Spanish fluency, I can really consider doing this. I also confirmed by talking to lots of locals that, unlike Mexico's north with its cartel violence, here in Mexico's far south things are safe as safe as the US State Department website said it was.
Mostly today around town I kept an eye out for medical facilities, since I have kidney disease, and I saw them. I saw doctors' offices with signs out for psychiatric services, too. I take Prazosin at night for PTSD nightmares, so I'd like to have a pdoc here in retirement who could prescribe that for me. US insurance is no good here, but doc visits and prescriptions are way cheaper like they were back in the US in the 1950s while I'm finding out that pharmaceuticals and medical tech are both up to date. I care, because with kidney disease I may need dialysis some day.
I even saw a sign out for a support group. I wonder if it would be like ours here. One thing's for sure: I'd stay online with DS PTSD from down here, and that's a huge support when thinking about going forward.
Today was 3 Kings Day here, an extension of Christmas, so little kids got presents and bigger kids set off fireworks sporadically all day. Sometimes the fireworks triggered my PTSD, but I was able to calm myself.
A couple of tiny kids were hilarious with me, since the fact that I'm round and white-bearded made them wonder if I was Santa Claus. One tiny little boy even followed me off the street into my hotel lobby calling out "Papa Noel" to me. I had to get his mom's attention to head him back in the right direction. My hotel's desk clerk saw it all and laughed her head off. It was darn cute.
Thanks for letting me run these scouting & recon observations by you. It helps me have you all as a sounding board here on the DS PTSD board right now since I'm weighing making this move solo in just a couple of years. I'm obviously apprehensive. I had one hyperventilating panic attack about it today, but I was able to recover within the hour.
Any thoughts are welcome. And yes, by the way, I took the suggestion I got here this week and bought a piece of raw amber on the street that I used as a rock to ground myself when I got anxious. That was good advice. It worked in today's panic attack. Feel free to keep advice coming.
Meanwhile, I hope you all are doing well entering the new year. Much support back to everybody.
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
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Ever since I stopped doing therapy because of insurance, I've been feeling that old tense and irritable sense of anxiety and stress. I hate that. I was making so many strides and changes during therapy, my therapist would acknowledge all of my progress and accomplishments, and I miss that reassurance. Today I thought about it, and I made those changes! She would always tell me that I chose to...
Sorry you had a panic attack but I'm really glad you got that rock & it helped. You have so much going on it is a lot of stuff to think about. The town sounds lovely though & I love that it's in a mountain area with that weather, that sounds nice. One thing to at least help with your stress that I do when I'm thinking a lot about something is I take little breaks out from stressing by thinking well I don't have to figure this all out today, sometimes it's takes a little pressure out. I don't know if that sounds silly but sometimes when I do that I know that I'll still over time come up with the right desicion but it takes a little pressure off if I'm panicking too much at one time about it. I hope that made sense
Sending you support & good vibes :)
i admire you for how in depth your research has been as far as figuring out what your needs will be once you retired there....it has helped me to think on how if i look at all sides of something,and well prepare myself for the unknown,certain things can be less scary and even something to look forward to...so thank you.
you have worked hard for many years,both in your working life,and in your recovery from PTSD,and certainly deserve a lovely peaceful retirement.
much support,muji.
I'm so happy for you.
A panic attack was thwarted by nobody but yourself! That's another part of your strength showing.
Can't wait to hear more and what else you might think about your retirement in your land of enchanment.:)
I've been playing the game ever since and now tend to research the places I go with the gusto of an frequent flier. I often arrive at the new places with trivia that will surprise the most entrenched of locals. But. . . All that research has yet to prepare me for actually living in said place. Seems there is always a gap between the research and the reality. At the end of the research, ya *just* gots to roll your dice and take your chances.
Glad you are enjoying the research. Even more glad your piece of dried tree sap (amber) helped you through the panic attack. Keep on posting. I am traveling vicariously with you.
Hugs and safe travels.
J.
I'm sorry that you had a panic attack... They're miserable things.... I've had a few lately and they are so debilitating....sigh..... Kudos to you for getting through it and discussing it here
Moving is considered one of the major stresses in life .... When I moved into Dan's home 3 years ago into an adorable little apt I was covered in a rash....
However it was so worth it and I know you'll make the best decision for you... Another hug and a blessing.....xo
I think you are putting to much pressure on yourself to find where you will retire, you have a couple years before retirement, so no rush or push. Pace yourself when looking and remember you do not have to do it all while on vacation, a lot of this information is available on line, and you can always call the local government for information etc. Start getting the local paper so you can learn more about the culture, crime rates, government etc.
You are a bit like me, in that, you want to tie up the loose ends and know what is going on, what the plan is, what is happening and you want the info secured as soon as possible. Breath, relax and know it will happen.
Hugs
He has lived here in San Cristobal in Mexico for 10 years. He owns a couple of restaurants here, so he's doing well. He confirmed that it's both safe and cheap here. Plus, he made the actual final move here from having lived and worked in the US, so that made his story even more like mine, and it was a really validitating conversation for comparison. He gave me his business card to keep in touch, and I gave him my email. That really made me feel good.
I also talked to a cop today about crime in the city--just politely got right to the point, and he was very candid about it. He told me where there are alleys in town not to go down like there are everywhere. But he confirmed that it's safe here in Mexico's extreme south, unlike up north by the US border where the smuggling is.
Hey, SunCloud, moving is one of life's major stressors, isn't it? I didn't have any panic attacks any more today, but since I've been on the trip I got a rash, too. Went by the pharmacy to buy some itch cream, so it ended up fine. In fact, it gave me a chance to check out the pharmacy down here, and I liked it.
I leave tomorrow, and I won't be back in the US for 2 days. I have a stopover tomorrow night at a hotel where there's no Wifi again, same hotel as before. So as before, don't worry if you don't hear from me until the 12th. I'm just in transit.
Thanks for your support, hope y'all are doing well, and much support back atcha. :-)