PTSD can be very hard on the family especially if the family is not supportive. If it possible for your husband to attend some therapy with you it may be helpful. Please remember his reaction to your ptsd is his problem. You do not own it he does. We cannot control how others react.

You do not need to be unhappy the rest of your life. You get choices I your life. I know it is hard to do see past the ptsd but you can and will get to a point where you can choose to be happy. Ptsd does not have rule your life and set the tone. It takes some work but you have the ability live your life, be happy and enjoy it.

Hugs

I think he thought he could handle the reality of being married to someone with ptsd but he realized he couldn't and thats pretty rough. Thank you for the encouraging words!

Hi, I'm new to this group. I have severe PTSD & I just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I can't even let people touch me & no way can be with anyone rite now in my life. Certain parts of my body hurt just to the touch from chronic pain from injuries I sustained excaping from my ex that tried to kill me years ago. He stalked me for a long time after that & I had I to relocate. I tried getting with a guy a year ago & when I flinched if he tried to touch me sometimes or the days I lay in bed w/ my migraines & neck problems he would get mad at me! I had to end it & when I tried to explain he was very cruel & told me I'm weak & "let" my past affect me, I was like excuse me? Lol do you even know the definition of PTSD ?!? Do you think I want to wake up with night terrors & sweats & grind my teeth so bad at night that sometimes I can't move my jaw all the way in the morning & it clicks & hurts ?!? If I could control this my God I would NOT choose to suffer like this! The best thing I can do is take it a day at a time & try my best, which I think doing things like going on this site & therapy & stuff maybe I hope soooo much might help one day I hope.
Either way I started going on & on sorry lol, but I just wanted to let you know that you're not alone. I can't be with anyone rite now, I believe I need to try to heal a little (hopefully I can) first & that's okay maybe moving forward if I ever meet the rite guy (he would have to be very special) then maybe, but it could only be at my pace.
I'm gonna stop writing my hands in pain locking up a little.
Just remember to be kind & gentle with yourself & take it one day at a time. I'll be saying prayers & good thoughts for you :)

Hi Her. Welcome to the forum. Sorry for what brings you here, but glad you are here. I believe our healing potentials grow exponentially for every single person who joins the healing network with sincere hopes of healing. Like rope fibers, divided we are weak. Bound together we are strong.

When my husband and I exchanged vows in 1980, we didn't have a polite, pat name to call the devastating effects of my having survived child sex trafficking. I had already been in haphazard, piecemeal therapy for 8 years, so I had some clues to the challenges ahead, but he was vastly underestimating the challenges. It got ugly and . . . the resulting domestic drama was/is far more long than interesting. These days we are calling each conflict, "Learning new steps to the dance." We are still stepping on each other's toes allot, but it is glorious when we master the new step together.

As I write this morning, I believe it resulted in a unique, fully customized partnership and was/is worth every pain and heartache. The shared habits of taking it in small steps, big faith with lots of prayer continue to serve us well as we continue to work our way through it, one issue at a time.

But that is me. . .

Welcome to DS. Hope you find healing support here while you work out your own solutions.

My husband has triggered me unintentionally a *lot* over our 20-plus years together, but he attends my PTSD therapy at least 2 times a month so we can be "on the same page" (or in his case, in the same book), and that is hugely helpful for us both. I understand he's not doing it deliberately, and he undersetands he's freaking me the heck out.

Healing hopes to you.

her, like arfie I'm sorry for what brings you here but I'm glad you found us. I'm divorced, so I don't have any wisdom to share about managing PTSD while in a marriage. However, as you can see there are many among us who have lots of wisdom to share on the subject. This is a healing place.

Welcome her, and lilmissy7. I am divorced too and was not diagnosed with PTSD until after, but there are people here with lots of understanding as you have already seen in the previous posts, so you are not alone in this, there is healing in sharing. Support to you both!

Hi and welcome to,the board...this is a good and safe place to hang out...big hug...xo

Welcome to the group. Triggers can be overcome. It's hard work and may take a while. It's doable if you really want it. In the end he could wind up being your biggest support. Couples therapy would be a good place to start. Lots of support.

Welcome to the group her. Your no alone and you don't have to live unhappy because you are among friends. There are many tools you can learn to get you through very hard times. I do hope you will seek a therapy and you and your husband could attend that whet he can understand and can support you as you learn. It takes baby steps in this prosses and there is hope. The hope of success. My family never gave up on me so I could never give up on them. Never give up on who you are inside.

Scott

I also am triggered by my hubs. When I see some stranger losing their shit in the grocery store it makes me laugh and it's easy to separate myself from them. When it's someone close with the anger it triggers me so fast into behaviours I'm unproud of. I'm terrified of the anger but my response is to act tough with a big mouth (which further aggravates the situation). *Little side note*-my mom has anger issues and I would run and hide from her outbursts as a child and that was how I protected myself. After adolescence and learning if you act tough people leave you alone I learned that behaviour kept me safe. Now as an adult I'm somewhere in the middle of both extremes and find myself feeling like a hurt hells angel (I suck at metaphors lol). My point in this post is I can now recognize the patterns within myself and I need to take the tools I've learned about distress control and handle it accordingly. I'm unsure if it's the PTSD or a character trait, or both, that makes me so impulsive but after recognizing these patterns I'm actually learning to notice myself in a PTSD trigger and can actually behave better. Idk if this applies but hope it helps.

It is normal to be triggered, especially by someone that close to you, after abuse. Have you considered maybe therapy sessions with your husband? That may help him to understand more, and to sort through both your issues.
I hope you continue to post up on here, you really can be open here about how you feel without being judged, without being put down. I certainly hope that will help you. ((Hugs))

Hi her,

I'm a little over one year into a relationship with my boyfriend who has PTSD. He has multiple traumas, actually we both do but he is more sensitive to triggers than I. He only recently told me that I have been triggering him. He is very closed off and I realize how huge it was for him to even share that. I went from thinking that he didn't really like me much, that he was impatient and intolerant, and that I was annoying in general to understanding a whole lot more just with that information I received. I feel like now I have something I can work on. Communication helped me and us. He has agreed to try some counseling with me too. Hugs from someone who loves someone with PTSD.

hi, welcome to the group. this is a great group to find, i'm glad you are here, hugs.