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Do you actively set goals for yourself? Write them down and act on them? I have never really been one to set goals for myself and write them down. First off, when I cannot achieve my goal I feel like a failure. God knows I have done nothing but fail at everything I have tried since getting PTSD and I don't need anymore in the failure column. Avoiding making goals is one way to ensure I don't add to my failures. I guess you could call that avoidance?
How do you get organized? I need help getting organized. I hate routine and find it boring and depressing to do the same things over and over again at the same time everyday. I don't have any set days for house cleaning, laundry, etc. When the mood hits I do it or when I am out of clothes. lol. Most days I have a to do list, but it does not mean i do what is on the list that day and when I keep carrying over the same things for a long period of time, I stop using the lists for a while and then a few weeks later start fresh. Again likely avoidance of things I really don't want to do?
The reason I am asking is because both of these things seem to be high on the list of things to do when you are not doing well and to maintain your mental wellness. What do you think? What are your experiences with goal setting and organizing?
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When i was in the ER February 16th 2025, i was being admitted to ICU where i was for 3 weeks, then had to relearn to walk for 3 weeks in another hospital rehab floor, the nurse told me something that made me feel for over 18 months now that i was finally *safe*. She told me that the guy who raped and beat me 21 years ago now almost 20 years at that time, was in prison as of a month before that...
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Sometimes, I think I have ODD. I can be oppositional. It seems that the only times that I feel like cleaning are when I should be doing something else or I have to go somewhere. Well, not everytime but most of the time. Yesterday, I was supposed to be doing online training for work but instead, I decided to work on my kitchen table. Most of the time, I don't know where to start and give...
I do better with a running inventory. How can I best use the resources available to me in this given hour? I trust in myself to actually WANT the structure of organization, the comfort of a clean environment, etc., and to get to those mundane details when the time is right.
Still. . . It's good to have growth opportunities to keep me reaching beyond my current comfort zone. There I use the logic, "Let the dream motivate, let reality dictate." Which brings me back to the running inventory. How can I best use the resources available to me in this given hour?
I used to be what other people would call "more dedicated" or ",more motivated". But really, my motivation level hasn't changed. What has changed is that I'm less neurotic and people pleasing, I'm less afraid of the social wrath I might incur by failing to live up to other people's expectations (or my perceptions of their expectations).
So, yeah I schedule stuff, but I stay flexible about it. And, I have goals-ish, but nothing formal or that I tell people about. The last time I told people about what I was hoping for I found out I wasn't on track for that anyway.......