Sorry.

(((hugs)))

It was never about you. None of it was about you. That's the awful truth (imho). Neither the abuse nor the failure to protect you was about you, because your parents were so wrapped up in their own heads that they didn't see you or know you or care about you.

But that in no way means that you're not worthy and important. It just means that your parents weren't well enough or able enough to see you or love you - because they were stuck in their own issues. But you have the power to claim your own worth, and to give yourself the love and care that you deserve.

I pm'd you.

Unloved children world-wide want to know, Sarah, as do the senior citizens, such as myself, that some of those unloved children grow in to.

Dunno Sarah. Sure wish it was easy as a just. . . Just ain't. . . Sigh. . .

It is hard to find the answers to your questions and if you do get answers they may not be good enough. We are all fed the fairytale that all parents love their children and all children should ove their parents. I find I have to love myself when I start asking those same questions. I even got the nerve to ask my mother and it was a weak answer. I have decided I am going to learn how to love myself and find out who I am. This is just advice from a person who has had the same questions.

sorry youve be struggling. People are selfish beings, only when we offer help are we beloved but when we need something we are alone. Life is full of ironies like this. Know atleast you arent alone in the frustration of lifes stupidness ((warm hugs))

Sometimes we get disappointed. Sometimes we get very disappointed. Someday that pain will turn into strength.

Not alone. They never gave me a bed to sleep in, I wasn't allowed at the dinner table to eat, not allowed on family outings and vacations, all my clothes were ratty second hand. I wasn't allowed to talk. Why do they do what they did? Don't think we'll ever have the answers. Big hugz.