Egads, A new puppy untrained is not good. Sometimes you want to trade your day for your husbands, even if he is a rocket scientist, it may be easier.
Unless training is done by the tenth week, it takes a lot longer to train a puppy. Because their bad habits and need whines are set. So breaking them is even harder. Plus your child is now toddling, EWWWWW, so puppy messes can't be left to when hubby gets home to take care of his dog.
This only creates more work for you easily eating up your hard earned 45 min self time(which is while your child's naps, I'm sure)
I hate caging a dog, because it takes longer to train them. They will just do what they have to in the cage, not learning to ask to go out.

With some treats you can get them to go to a safe spot, like a specific pillow or bed, then learn to stay there. Also keep a leash on their collar, to make escorting to the door easier. So you can let them out, or hook them to the door after a scolding for a mess. They will learn the scolding relationship to the mess and going to the door after a bit. Dogs are people pleaser's, they will learn because they want your approval. A treat after successfully going out for potty is a good reward. Also petting and positive comment for good behavior. "Good puppy, going to the door" Puppies lear your vocabulary fast, also tone. A scary voice could make them stop in thier tracks, but also make them pee from anxiety. So if you see them squatting say "wait, wait go to the door" and walk them there and out immediately. Petting them before thety come in with a job well done comment.
Some rub the nose, but a tap with rolled newspaper on the nose, works well too. It is not the force, but the sound that will convey displeasure with puppy actions. It really bugs them.

You probably know this, but just in case. I have trained a lot of dogs, I prefer a 6 week old, to an older puppy. Most six week's puppies get the idea in 2-3 days., the older, the longer needed, to break already learned bad habits.

Wait- if HE brought home the puppy, why is YOUR life turned upside down???

I have a 15 month old and the gym is my temple, so I hear you. The LAST thing I'd want is a dog- it's like a toddler that NEVER grows up!

Any way to give it back? We're talking quality of life here, and it seems like the fluff ball is wrecking yours.

Yikes, a baby and a puppy at ONCE. Holy cow.

Yes, I'm a guy and I still like what Deli asked. Your fella brought the puppy to the house but you're the one cleaning up after it. Some might think that to be an less than fair division of labor.

I had a cat from 1989 to 2003. A stray kitten I brought into my apartment where I lived alone. As much as I've always been a dog person, it was my experience that cats were cleaner and easier to potty train.

I did it with a water pistol, poor guy. I hope it doesn't sound like abuse, but if my little buddy started to climb the curtains or tinkle on the carpet, a jet of water hit him from on high. The behavior modification gods had spoken.

He HATED getting wet, as many cats, do, so he'd stop what he was doing to go give himself a bath for an hour or so to get that icky water off of him.

After a few weeks, just pulling the water pistol out was enough, no need to pull the trigger. Then, no more water pistol needed at all. He turned into quite the little gentleman.

Unreal. I'm just guessing he thought that was just such a therapeutic addition to your family... that's how some men think..

Have you had a calm discussion about this with your husband? Let him know that it is just too much more piled up for you. That you need your YOU time to stay sane. (And don't let him get by with the 'well, you can exercise while you walk the dog' deal.

As far as the 'at least you don't work' comments, just know that people making those comments have not experienced 24/7 childcare, housekeeping, and new puppy care all at once. Sure, it's an insensitive comment, from inexperienced individuals. Even those who work out of the home can go to the restroom in peace while they're at work... they're paying someone else for child care, most likely and just really have NO CLUE.

((( Annie))) take care of YOU...

Sorry you have to deal with your husbands "not thinking this through" moment. I found those pee pads worked nice and slowly moved them by the door, then outside. At night a old wind up clock under the pillow may help him settle down, since it will resemble the heartbeat of mom. I found a spray bottle/water gun as said works well to, often if you catch them starting, you just have to show it to them and they will stop.

2 days before my wife's knee replacement 7 puppies showed up in our barn. When the wife got home it was rough since she's very demanding when laid up (acts like a sick man)lol

Can he take puppy back if you're not already attached? Hope you get through this OK, Blaine

idk Annie. i think i would have to either put the puppy outside or it would have to go. just mho. it's just too much. don't overload yourself. hopefully your husband will understand if you explain it to him. if not, oh well. he might come home one day and the dog is gone if it were me. please take care of you.
*hugs*

Feeling like a Shitologist, are we? Sigh. Babies will do that too you, however many feet they have.

Have you tried crate training for the puppy? "Go to bed!" is the first command I teach any of my dogs, adult or puppy. Details available if you are interested.

More important is you not giving up on that self-care progress. It is downright discouraging how often life gets in the way of self-care, but it really is a critical piece of the puzzle. Hope ya can build on that progress.

Thx for the comments all...lots of good information, and I'm grateful for the support and humor too!

The water pistol part had me laughing so hard I snorted... ;) I was having some great visuals...

It's still a work in progress...got a crate, working on not pottying in it. (The pup, I mean, lol.)

Ha! Glad the water pistol tickled your funny bone.

Muji