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Back in a bad place again

ryverrat
ryverrat

It's almost 2 years to the day I lost my previous job.  And now I've lost another job.  I was hired back in July and now they said after 6 months, it's not working out.  Wait?  6 months?  I was only there for 4.5 months.  Their math has been bad on other occassions too.  At least this time I'm getting a month's pay, one month of recruiter service, one month of health insurance and they won't contest my unemployment.  But I still feel like shit.  I've tried to put a good spin on it but can't.  I'm plagued by the same restless, unable to concentrate, insomia, nightmares, and just down feeling I had when the last job ended.  Every time I hear the words, "she was fired" I feel my heart sink.  On top of it, the job had triggered my asthma to no end.  Was hospitalized in Oct. because of asthma.  Yes, I was in the process of looking for a new job but losing a job still sucks.  I was made feel like a failure as a kid and now it seems the world wants to confirm that verdict.  I just wish I knew what I'm doing wrong.

Community LeaderLeo
Leo
I wonder what I'm doing wrong every day. Sometimes, every hour. Sometimes, it's not me. When a compnay owner sold the cokmpany, I was just one more number eliminated from some accounting book. And they're not denying you benefits and so forth, which is a good sign, so please hang on to that, and remember, you got a job, you can get another job, and you can always ask for specifics on why you've been let go. It might be something as simple as "new person got the first pink slip". Or maybe they'll tell you something that you can use to help you find a job better for you in the future. I don't know. But the point is, just don't assume it is *all* your "fault". Okay? I've seen people keep jobs over looking busy and doing little, and I have seen people pushed out because of personality (if you didn't wan tot go drinking with the newsroom editor, you could kiss your job goodbye, and guess what, I don't drink!)...
Supportive hugs.
arfie
arfie
I still haven't found a positive spin put on rejection. "You're fired" is a pretty stiff rejection in Arf World and I still feel miserable when I remember the times I have heard it, even when it was phrased in different words. It has been allot of years since I have heard it and I can still drive myself crazier in wondering what I did wrong.

I find my own consolation in the philosophy that it is what you do next which counts. Success is the art of getting up once more than you have fallen.

Continued support while you find your own consolation, ryver. I am impressed with you for trying.
skipmcnicoll
skipmcnicoll
brother, i have lived your life, and walked that walk for 25 years, surviving as companies crumbled, industries morphed and failed, and thousands lost their jobs and had to start over again. my resume is littered with 1 and 2 year jobs, but somehow it worked out. i started at the bottom as an airline agent and got to the top as a corporate cfo. listen, you need to turn your life and free time into a constant networking and job hunting engine, so that you will leave each job to a better one, 6 months before they come knocking with a pink slip. keep upgrading your education and skills, live frugal and invest in yourself. this is the only way to make it all pay off..keep moving and shaking. i hope this helps you. i teach this stuff to the college crowd now. god bless.
RebeccaWellness
RebeccaWellness
I am so sorry this happened to you. I am sorry you hurt. I am sorry you feel rejected. It is stressful yet there may be a better job, one that will meet your needs, and allow you to use your skills and talents.
rainbowlegacym55
rainbowlegacym55
I am really sorry this happened to you.. I still am hurting from retiring too early from teaching. it hurt a lot and it was my life work. I know I had to go . I was on burnout and did not want to ever mess up my reputation . sadly I told my truth about struggling with PtSD and gossip as a teacher spreads like wild fire especially wnen you were good at it not to hijack your post but you will get back up from this.. and As leo said you will get another one . Take this time to regroup . reach out for support and assess all the things you are good at. I am sure they are many. for me I am now not going to do a lot to go back even though I am strong again too dang old I think. but my message is DONT GIVE UP!!!
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