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I am writing this so I can vent out how I feel about my online experiences. I am 17 and have been sexually harassed by someone on KIK for 1 month maybe longer than that. It started when I found a person Sharron on KIK. we talked for awhile and I told him about my boyfriend. He didn't like my boyfriend and my boyfriend didn't really trust him. I finally got my boyfriend to agree to talk to him. When I went to Sharron and explained to him my boyfriend wanted to talk to him and he got pissed off at me. He then demanded I send him a picture of my breasts. I told him no but he found out how much I care about my boyfriend and he said to me if I didn't do what he said he would hurt my boyfriend. I got scared and didn't want him to hurt my boyfriend because he is my best friend so I sent the picture to him. but that wasn't enough for him so he continued to threaten me if I didn't send he'd hurt my boyfriend. He then decided that he would take the pictures of me and send them to others if I didn't send him more pictures. He kept me up till 12:00 in the morning every night sending him pictures. (The pictures got worse and worse with every day I dealt with it) I was surprised I still had any energy left in me during the day. As every day went by I felt more and more awful about myself and thought I deserved what he did and that it was my fault (I still do). Finally a week after this started happening I log onto KIK and see I have 2 msg's from people I don't know. I asked them how they got my username and they said Sharron. They laughed at me and said she likes to show pictures of herself. They then proceeded to call me a slut. I felt worse and worse every time I had to send him pictures. The only reason I did was to keep him from hurting my boyfriend. One day during this time he started getting me to role play with him. I told him I didn't want to but again he threatened my boyfriend. The scenes we role played were of him forcing me to have sexual intercourse with him. Even though it didn't really happen to me in real life every time he sent a msg in the role play I felt like it was happening to me in real life. Finally a month and a half (I think. I don't know how long he tortured me. I lost track) he told me that he was bored of bullying me. I felt like it was a gift from God hearing that. Even though he was out of my life I had nightmares (still do) about him finding me in my house and raping me while i'm asleep. I have major self confidence and self worth issues too. I can't sleep either. I look around my room at night and I continue to think he's in my room or watching me. There's not a day that goes by that thinks I should've been smarter and ignored him. but I didn't and I have to accept and live with that. Cry If you read this PLEASE DON'T TELL A-N-Y-O-N-E about this. I'm entrusting you to read this for your eyes only. Please leave comments. It'd mean a lot to me.
I'm not sure if what he did was technically illegal- but he may have enticed a minor or something like that. Or maybe you'd give them probable cause to confiscate his computer to check for kiddie porn. I bet he'd crap his pants when he opened the door and the men in suits came to confiscate his pc.
You've learned a hard lesson, now its time to move on.
I wasn't able to talk to either of my parents - ever - and had to learn the ropes all by myself. So its possible to do. You will do likewise.
Sounds like you HAVEN'T learned a lesson. You're still using this app, despite the fact you have a stalker. How dumb is that? Common sense would dictate that you would delete the Kik app, and in so doing, eliminating yourself as a target. Yes, you will survive without Kik. Your heart will continue to beat, your lungs will continue to inhale and exhale. You too can function in a world without Kik.
I haven't read everyone's comments but I did notice a few people told you to go to the police!!! I am 600% with them!!! In fact it is you moral duty to do this!!! You are 17 and he has naked pictures of you, that is 100% illegal and he can go to jail for this!!! He possesses underage pornography!!! He is definetly doing this to other people!!! Just think about that for a moment!!! He is doing this to someone else right now! Is it there fault they are caught in this mess??? My bet would be that you would agree with me that it was not their fault, they did not know that he was this type of predator when they first started talking to him, just like you!!! He is a well practiced pedophile!!! You will be helping so many other innocent girls just like you!!! If you make this ass accountable for his horrible decisions that you will infact take your first step toward healing!!! You will be taking your power back!!! He tried to steal that from you, but he didn't succeed!!! Prove to him now that you do not deserve to be treated this way!!! Report him!!! The police might ask you to try and get him to ask for pictures again so that you have some evidence, or they may try their own tactics!!! Weather they do anything at all or not is besides the point!!! You will feel better, you must believe me that THIS WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!!! I can completely understand your feelings of responsibility here... But you are not responsible for this monsters choices, and it was his choice to be a bully and it was his choice to target you!!! Your choices where completely manipulated out of you, and you where being lied to and threatened!!! Non of that is your fault!!! If someone told you before you started talking to him that he would end up doing that to you you never would have started that relationship!!! YOU DID NOT KNOW, and once you did it was too late!!! This is not your fault no matter how much you feel your hind sight is 20/20... There was nothing you could have done to predict this!! You didn't ask him to bully and threaten you!!! Trust me, you are the victim of an online sexual predator Nd he is breaking the law obtaining jammed pictures of minors through threatening and bullying!!! The law is on your side!!! You don't need to tell your parents to call the police, just look up the local police phone number and give them am call, a police officer will come to meet you wherever you want to meet, suggest Starbucks or a neutral place that you can feel comfortable not to far from home, he will come with paper for you to fill out a police report so it is helpful to put it all down on paper before you meet with the police, but not neccisary!!! You will feel so much better, so much more empowered!!! You definetly want to do this, and remember the benefits to yourself are completely secondary to your duty to our society, you have the moral responsibility to notify the authorities so that you may ty and prevent this monster from hurting any more minors!!! Please please, for the same of other girls like you, talk to the police!!!
As far as your healing goes, it will be super important to seek out a counselor who specializes with sexual abuse!!! I again wish that was something I could have done years ago, the syptoms for sexual abuse are widespread and life changing, you may not even recognize them all yet, but I would wish very much that you do not have to discover them all, seek professional help to help you feel safe again in bed, to help you realize that non of this is yor fault!!! To gain confidence in your decision making abilities!!! Seek out a female counselor who has sexual trauma experience!!! And I truly hope you feel better soon!!! Be rental with yourself, stop the beating yourself up for no reason, you where a victim of a crime!!! Yes, a crime!!! So please treat yourself like you would treat a friend or loved one if they had been a victim of a horendise violating crime like you have!!! In times of create doubt, Ty and talk to yourself as if you where your BFF going through this same thing, you maybe surprised that you have some compassion for yourself, allow yourself to greive and to tell all the emotions that come with being sexually abused!!!! Love yourself!!! I am so proud of you for using your voice and speaking up here, that was huge!!! And you are doig the right thing!!! As I know you will continue to do, becaus once you make that report you are no longer just a victim of a crime, you are a HERO!!! A hero for all those who maybe saved from yor honesty, and a hero for all those young girls that need an example of what to do when they are being sexully violated!!! You go girl, I know you got this!!! You have the strenghth and the courage and the desire to help our society as a whole!! So you will survive this crime and come out an inspiration!!!
Their unwillingness to understand ruined my relationship with my family. Even when I forgave them and tried to reconcile with them as an adult, by then they had mistaken being a pedophile's victim with being gay and had hardened their attitude toward me into one of misguided homophobia. Fortunately, gay friends were honest with me about the facts about homosexuality and pedophilia: most pedophiles, actually, are heterosexual.
Sexual predators are traumatizing, and then poor responses to us as victims of sexual predators can be traumatizing yet again. Know that you have posted in a place in which this is understood. I hope you find the therapy and care that helped us, too.
Wetnoodle2, I completely disagree with the ton of your last comment... It is this type of victim blaming that perpetuates the feelings of guilt and shame in young victims of this type of crime!!! You should be ashamed of youself for offering this type of advice!!! It is not weather she is on Kik or not... It is the simple fact that someone... NOT HER!!! Broke the law... And sexually herast a minor!!! This is a crime punishable by law and it should be treated as such... This young girl is not to blame in any way for this criminals actions!!! Please do some educational reading on how to treat a victim of child sexual abuse because I know that you really want to be helpful and give good advice, because the bases of you giving advice at all is you want to help her!! I know you didn't mean to hurt her, but your words hurt me as I put myself in her position of reading them!!! She needs advocacy and respect!!! She has reached out to us for help!!! And she definetly deserves it!!! WE ALL DO!!! You included!!!
I would suggest looking up your local, "child advocacy center", do not wait ti you are 18!!!!!!!!!! Do this now!!! As a victim of a crime you will Recieve free counseling from highly trained professionals, they will help you make the police report they can do everything at the same place and you will have your own victim advocate and legal advocate that you can call anytime to ask any questions at all!!! They will take care of you!!! They will make you feel safe!!!
Child advocacy center!!! Please look it up!!!
That being said, I don't know if this should be kept from her parents. I think they have a right to know.
Muji, that's so horrible how your family not only blamed you, but accused you of something that's just not true that's as sensitive as your sexual identity.
The last time I confronted my parents for their junk, I told them that I blamed them in some way for the neighbor boy's treatment of me. My dad said it was my fault. Really? I was 6 and the 12 year old coerced me to get on my knees and it was my fault that I did it and told nobody. Wow, Dad.
Maybe I put him on the defensive, but I really felt that they were so self absorbed in their own dysfunction that they didn't notice me. I mean, how could that have happened to me and they didn't notice that I was a little different after that??? They couldn't pick up on anything??? I mean, we lived in the country and I only played with this kid. Kind of makes you go, "Hmmmm," don't it?
I'm still creeped out to think that now, he's 45 and when he was 12 he did that sick stuff to me. What's he doing now???
So yeah, I'd report the bum if I could, but tell your parents first. Be better than I was at 6.
Hugs!
After I was stalked I avoided the Internet for two years... It did not help me... It just made me feel isolated and scared!!! Seek professional counseling and notify the authorities anytime someone is the slightest bit wierd over the net!!! You have the right!!!