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ladydi1961
ladydi1961
I have not been feeling well and this past saturday I got up not feeling well and instead of taking care of me I went somewhere. Well, I passed out cause of dydration and went to the doctor on monday and crack a rib.

This past week I have been feeling guilty cause I have been taking care of me as much as I can. I do feel guilty cause of changing my schedule around and taking care of me.

At time the guilt is too much--how can I avoid doing this--letting go of the guilt feeling. i will not get better if I stay home but the guilt eats me away if I don't do what I said that I would do.

Could someone help please?


ladydi1961
chris1976
chris1976
I learned to feel the discomfort and guilt, acknowledge that that's what I feel, but continue taking care of myself. There isn't a badge of honor waiting for you because you kept your schedule and didn't take care of yourself. So why worry? Things can get better only if you take some steps that might be not that comfortable to take.
arfie
arfie
Forgiving myself for even having needs was a toughie. Almost as hard as forgiving myself for the stupid stuff I do when I am not hitting all cylinders because I don't take care of my needs.

I started by saving my loved ones from the stupid stuff I do when I slide into the martyr mode and refuse to give comfort to myself. There is no nobility in self-destruction and self-neglect. At best, it sets a bad example for those who depend on me. At worst? The list is too long for a single post.

Take care of you, Ladydi. That's an order.
FindingKatB
FindingKatB
My staying somewhere else, instead of my home, has brought the same feelings you have. It makes me look like if I am weak because all day, I just stay at my uncle's the whole day and I don't go anywhere, unless necessary. I am used to doing so much I don't know what doing nothing feels like and so far- its discomfort.

God is gracious to keep me alive, that I believe.
RichieD
RichieD
That whole self-sacrifice issue has been something that I've had a lot of trouble with too. I think it started with my family, where "martyrdom" was a game they all seemed to play at times.

It's illogical, it's self-destructive, and even downright stupid at times, but somehow it's very hard to shake off...even when you know all that.

Sometimes music can get to our emotional self where logic can't. Try listening to Mavis Staples singing "Respect Yourself". It was a help to me.
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