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WHY?

ladydi1961
ladydi1961
I am going thoough a tough time right now and asking me :WHY" am I going though this right now and I did not ask to have PTSD from 13 years of abuse from foster parents. All I want to do is scream and anything else cause I am sooo angry



ladydi1961
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deleted_user
I feel the same way. It's so frustrating because we didn't ask to have the bad things happen to us. I'm sorry. :(
FindingKatB
FindingKatB
I agree. I have been going through a tough patch lately and it has become very difficult to come out of also. I have become more angrier and more isolated from those around me.

You are not alone!
arfie
arfie
I find the healing comes more easily since I quit torturing myself with, "Why?" Knowing why will do nothing to alter the fact. It remains what it is whether I understand or not.

But finding assurance from folks who understand and care has been very healing for me.

Keep venting, Ladydi. We care.
CrazyCanuk
CrazyCanuk
Good advise Arfie and good to see you back posting again.

On of the hardest things for me is to forget the why. I do believe if you can train yourself, which will take time, not to care about the why, you will be in a much better place.

Take care of yourself and know we are here.
Community Leadermujicaptsd
mujicaptsd
"Why" is something I never have answered. Like you, I certainly didn't ask to be born into the abuse that shaped my early life--physical abuse, mental abuse, sexual abuse, you name it. I've learned a lot from dealing with it, but couldn't I have learned it from a book? Did I have to live it to learn it?

In my case, that's just how it happened. I know it's not fair to any of us. Knowing how hard it is, a therapist who heard me ask "why me?" for the thousandth time asked me to pretend I was God for a moment. If not me, who would I have wished this abuse on?

I wished for no abuse at all for anyone, but my therapist insisted I answer the question. So, after considering wishing this hell on my worst enemies, I still felt even as God I couldn't live with myself even if they, who deserved it, got dumped on like I had been dumped on. So I decided I'd just deal with it, and try not to pass on this hell to anyone else.

So far so good. That's as close as I've come to an answer for now.
MillaSofia
MillaSofia
They "Why" question is impossible and depressing. Don't ask that one. How about "How do I keep myself going?" "What is my next step."

Thank you for sharing. Sending good thoughts your way.
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